BM can allocate it however she wants to suit SS' sports obligations. The judge told DH that if DH ever brought another case before the court to increase time, the judge would dismiss it. The judge said he will never change the ruling we have now. He told DH to "pay your CS, accept the time you have, and move on" because "a child needs their Mom."
 

Judges are not perfect, some of them are biased at best, and some of them are flat out corrupt. 

Same with lawyers. Some of them are biased and incompetent. 

Idk if y'all live in a small town (we have about 4 family court judges here), If your DH believes his rights are being violated he needs to see if he can have his case reviewed by a different judge if y'all have more than one judge in family court. 
 

This is just me. I would not accept some judge telling me random sports (unless the kid is a D1/Olympic level athlete) is more of a priority than my parenting rights. 
 

And when he said "a child needs their mom" I would have said "I concur.....AND a child needs their father as well plus extend family, siblings, etc on BOTH sides" ... shut his biased pie hole all the way up. 

DH fought for his rights for years, but hit roadblocks at every turn.
 

I know the feeling. I fought my breeder for many years in court. 
 

I do agree with you in that at some point it can seem overwhelming to change what is in place. 
 

You guys have to do what's right for you/your situation. 

An option that I think should be implemented is, get the kid and don't return the kid until the full COd time has ended.  BM  likely won't be able to get to court in time to do anything about it and DH can send his attorney in his stead until the Skid is returned at the end of the COd summer visitation duration.  Odds are, SS will be back with BM before it ever gets to court and ... the Judge will in all liklihood do nothing once the kid has finished daddy's  COd 28day summer visitation.  That is not in violation of the CO.  It is in violation of BM's manipulative bullshit which IMHO likely has next to zero legal standing.  The risk IMHO is well worth the action.  SInce SS will be returned after 28 days as is COd, I doubt contempt even applies.  Though retaining and consuting a pitt bull zero tolerance attorney is advised IMHO.  Not a placator, not an attorney who does not have the testicular fortitude to go to war until the conflict has ended.

This also shifts the tension and anxiety onto BM next summer, and every summer after that.  She will have a choice, clearly violate the CO by not surrendering the kid per the clearly set 28days of visitation each summer, or.... not know if DH will tolerate taking his summer visitation with his kid in BM's manipulative nibble periods.  

Let BM lose her damned mind, let her start freaking out over whether DH will tolerate her to continue to interfere in his time with his kid.  I would keep his response on play back.  "Provide me with the schedule you intend.  If you do not surrender my son on the start date that you choose, I will be on your door step to collect him and I will drag your ass to court for violating the CO."  This has zero request for more time, it does not confront the threat by the Judge to dismiss any attempt to change visitation.  Visitation is not changed. 28days is 28days.

I like the suggestion that BM get sued adnauseum for any crap and every time court is approaching, a motion is made to get the Judge to recuse themselves, with a parallel request to the sate judicial review authority to remove the judge from the case due to demonstated repeat prejudice. I also think that filing complaints with the sate judicial review authority against the Judge, any idiot lawyer that fails to do their duty as they are paid to do it, etc when there is even a sliver of failure to perform professionally should happen.

I would also call a Father's Rights legal support organization and test the waters to have them rip the balls off of both BM and the Judge.  None of what you , DH, and SS have been through passes the smell test of legitimacy on the level of the Judge, BM, or even your own lawyer.

IMHO of course.

Geez. That's cutting it short. It takes at least 2 weeks in advance to request off from work and purchase reasonably priced plane tickets (if y'all fly) 

oh wow that is ridiculous. An involved father or mother wouuld never think such a late deadline is reasonable. That judge has never had to organize his life around kids.