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BSgoinon's picture

BM has seen SS once since the motel on the wrong side of town incident. She asked DH if she could see him if a friend of hers (the only friend she has that we trust) was with them. So he said yes. They just went back to her house. She wanted to keep SS until 5, but he called me at 330 and asked if he could have her drop him off at my office at 4. Of course you can.

This weekend SS had a basketball game on Saturday morning, Baseball game Saturday night and 2 baseball games on Sunday. She text SS at 6am on Saturday telling him that she was going to skip his basketball game, but she would be at baseball for sure. Then... she never showed up. And of course she didn't come to his games on Sunday. I don't even know if she is aware that he plays on Sundays for a different league. If he wants her to know, he can tell her. She called and left a message yesterday apologizing for missing his game, saying she was sick. he never called her back.

Yesterday afternoon BM text DH. Some nonsense about how she couldn't make it to SS's baseball game the night before because she had to go to the ER "for her skin".... AGAIN. DH basically called her out and told her he didn't believe her, and to stop telling SS she is going to be at things when she doesn't go. He went on to say "it doesn't matter at all to me if you are there or not, but I'm sure it does to SS, stop breaking promises. If you can't get your shit together long enough to come to a 2 hour game, then don't even tell him you will be there, he is going to end up hating you, very soon". She says something about being sorry for everything that's been going on with her and that she loves SS more than anything "just like you do". DH says, NO, you do NOT love him just like I do. You love yourself.

Selfish asshole. I hate her.

SS didn't seem to care. BM's dad and stepmom were at all of the baseball games. Her stepmom and I sat together and chatted for quite some time on Saturday. She's a good grandma, they love SS so much. He is going to spend this coming weekend with them. I'm sure BM will flip out about that as well. But I don't really care.

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Willow2010's picture

DH says, NO, you do NOT love him just like I do. You love yourself.
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

That is a GREAT comeback.

hereiam's picture

She loves herself....and her drugs, and her men, and blah, blah, blah. Who does she think she is kidding?

BSgoinon's picture

It has to be the drugs. That is the only thing I can think that would make a person THAT delusional. She thinks people believe her. She is the most selfish person I have ever met in my life. It is sickening.

BSgoinon's picture

Thank you WTF, I think so as well. If it were me, I would not be able to control my anger toward her. DH is level headed. Just when I doubt his strategies, he proves himself right. I have learned (it wasn't easy) to let him do his thing. He's a smart guy.

Tuff Noogies's picture

oh, BS, i remember those days well. "yes lurch i'll be at your tournament." mostly she simply never showed. a few times (three times i think, in two years) she showed, then left after the first game - "i'm gonna grab some food, what time does the next one start?" then disappear w/o a trace.

one time kaos threw a fit cuz he wanted to spend time w/ her and she never came back. he called and texted and called and texted - she never responded, and never mentioned it the next contact they had a few days later.

it doesnt faze kaos, he's her baaabyyyy. but lurch saw. he doesnt say much about her, but when he does it's quite clear he knows exactly what kind of person she is. he still loves her in principle, but he doesnt show any warm feelings about her.

BSgoinon's picture

That's the point that it seems like SS is at. For about a week recently it seemed like SS was actively TRYING to have a relationship with her. He was initiating contact, and asking if he could see her. After his texts go ignored for days, he gave up again. I'm certain he still loves her because she is his mom, but really, I don't think he wants anything to do with her. She has just let him down one too many times. Her bullshit "I love his more than anything" line wouldn't even work on him at this point. He's not stupid.

notasm3's picture

She doesn't love herself more than she loves her son. She loves DRUGS more than herself or anything. That's what an addict does.

Many if not most addicts hate themselves because they love drugs more than anything. But that's no excuse for piss poor behavior.

BSgoinon's picture

I believe that NOW. But the behavior started as a very SELFISH downward spiral. She wanted to party, she wanted to hang out with this dude, she didn't want to work, she chose that lifestyle over her son. To me, that is selfish.

furkidsforme's picture

Junkies are so deluded with what they think others believe.

My own damn sister tried telling our mother that she was "wrongly accused of stealing and fired" from a major big box store. Had my poor old momma all convinced how her daughter was done wrong and it was all so unfair.

Until I told Mom to think about it. A big box store has a lot to lose if they get sued by an employee in a wrongful termination suit. Hundreds of thousands. They sure as hell aren't gonna go firing people without cause. If she was terminated and the reason given was stealing, then you can rest assured they had PROOF of her theft.

Then Mom's brain kicked back in. Oh yeah, that's right. Sister is a junkie and is lying her ass off again. She probably did steal all kinds of shit and sell it for drug money.

I'm so sorry your SS has to learn these lessons this way. How awful for the poor kiddo.

robin333's picture

So glad is the one texting. Hopefully, BM is almost descended to a new low, resulting in a drama free, life without BM'S constant excuses for you and SS.

BSgoinon's picture

I haven't had any contact with her in weeks. Not since I called her out on following DH's company FB page. I told her that shit is weird LOL. She never responded and hasn't contact me since then. LOL. Why does she follow his WORK FB? There are a handful of pictures of him on there, including a few of him and I from company parties. But it doesn't divulge any information about him, and I'm fairly certain she doesn't have a new found interest in Tax Law. So.... Yeah, I'll call you out on it, effin' weirdo.

robin333's picture

That is weird. But then again, look at the doer- it all makes illogical sense Smile

BSgoinon's picture

She is completely delusional. She does believe herself to still be a good mom, even after all of the crap this past year. BUT... she is a known stalker. She is the kind of person that tries to remain friends with a guys mom or sisters after a break up so she can know what is going on with him.

BSgoinon's picture

Monkey- So they had a ceremony and never actually got legally married? Lame.

That is the point I am at. I feel no sympathy. BM's stupid choices have gotten her where she is today. Every day she has a new "FB FIGHT" with some random tweaker. I used to feel bad for her. I admit it. I had pity on the idiot. But that was a very long time ago. I am over it, I have no respect, hope or sympathy for her. We would all be better off if she disappeared.