I hate being a stepmom
Just finished having a HUGE argument with DH...we've been together a couple years...this is bullshit. Sorry for my language but it is.
Started with DH and I messing around a bit after we showered. We were already dressed but were just playing around on the bed when SD7 knocks on the door and asks DH if he wants to play some game she made up. He told her he'd go play in a bit. She stayed by the door and said that he was taking long.
I told him "hurry up DH your daughter is calling you" and I laughed.
SD then asks if I want to play. I say (while DH is nodding his head silently) "no thanks, SD, your dad will play with you."
SD says, "well, Blue, if you want to play you can play..."
And I confirm that it was to be only her and DH.
DH asks me why I won't play. I didn't think it was a big deal (SD ALWAYS asks me to play with her, dance with her, or wants to show me something and 90% of the time, I do it; especially when DH isn't home with us).
I told DH simply because I didn't want to. Because I do everything for SD and treat her pretty much like she's my kid, I really didn't think it was a big deal.
Well, DH asks me again, "why won't you just go play with her with me??"
I told him again, this time I was getting irritated, "DH, because I don't want to."
He says, "I don't want to either but I'm still going to play"
And I said "as you should because she's YOUR daughter..."
Now, after a whole day of not speaking to me, I asked him why he was SO bothered by what I had said. (instead of freaking out and blowing up, DH does the exact opposite and keeps silent and ignores completely, til the other person, me,casks him to open up; I in doing so am bothering him...every time...)
He said that it had pissed him off the way I worded things...I was confused...I asked him what I had said wrong. He said he didn't like this way I had said that SD was "your daughter"...
I reminded him that she was indeed "his" daughter and he said he knew that but so what and why was it such a big deal for me not to just go and play with SD for a bit. I told him I didn't feel like it and thought that it would have been nice if it were just them two since he's not home very often and they don't spend so much time together just the two of them...
I do everything else for this skid with no appreciation and ONE thing I don't want to do with SD, and he gets pissed off with me?? Seriously??
I said that and he says that has nothing to do with the situation...of course not...
After this and more that he's said to me, (which of course is when the truth came out that i tell him what to do with his kid ALL THE TIME about EVERYTHING) I'm really REALLY close to disengaging completely and telling him seriously to have MIL pick SD up from school for him to pick her up before getting home from work...this was how it used to be before we got married. If he's not happy with how I do things, maybe I should just leave...everyone will be happy...wtf