A Christmas gift for BM
Let me start by saying the DH and I have been together a total of 6 years and this is the first Christmas DH has been like this.
This year DH is obsessed with BM’s Christmas gift and it’s driving me nuts.
SS13 mentioned that he thought he and SS9 should get BM xyz gift for Christmas.
Well DH has been on a mission to procure this item ever since.
We (meaning DH and I) spent a morning going to 3 different stores looking for BM’s xyz gift. No luck. 
Then he looks online at xyz store and can’t find it. Now I’m getting peeved.
Then DH tells me how since he has a meeting that will take him past the xyz outlet store he’ll stop there on his way home to look for BM’s xyz gift. This store is 2 hours from our city. Now I’m PO’d.
So I stupidly look online for xyz gift and find it, I’m thinking great we can be done with this – I’ll order it online. OH NO, NOT SO FAST!?! DH is worried it won’t be shipped to our house in time for Xmas. WTF????? :? :sick: :?
I’m at a loss for words right now and feeling down.
I totally get that DH wants to be there for SS13 and help him to get the gift that BM wants. BUT. Come on now, I believe we’ve gone above and beyond trying to procure this item. And truth be told SS13 hasn’t help at all – he’s old enough to be pulling his fair share.
Hope everyone else is having a better holiday season!
~BettyRay
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You are a better woman than
You are a better woman than I, I would NOT participate in shopping for BM anything. I would not be happy at all about spending household money on BM.
I wouldn't waste 2 seconds of
I wouldn't waste 2 seconds of my time shopping for a present for BM - gag! If it's the thought that counts, she certainly wouldn't like what I might buy, lol! }:)
I get where your coming from.
I get where your coming from. In the past I've taken care of a lot of stuff "behind the scenes" for DH with regards to BM. It's just easier, way less stress involved.
I try getting things done, in and out, in the quickest way possible.
I will be suggesting to DH about SS13 getting his own gifts for BM with his own money. And believe me SS13 has the money. I think SS13 is at an age where we should be able to send him off to get BM a gift while we're doing our own shopping.
~BettyRay
Exactly. There is no WAY I
Exactly. There is no WAY I would ever, ever buy anything for BM. If DH thought he needed to jump through hoops to do that, there would be hell to pay at home. What is he getting you, Bettyrae?
I don't know what he's
I don't know what he's getting me. Although I think it may be an e-reader. I'm thinking that because I was talking about the kindle the other day and he brought up the nook and was pontificating about its virtues. Out of character for him as I'm the one that does most of the reading in our house.
This is the first year he's acted like his. Normally he takes the boys to get BM something and has it wrapped and it doesn't even enter our home. That's why I'm so peeved about this.
In addition, I've been in a dark place mainly crabby and sad lately as my family have been PITAs about the holidays.
~BettyRay
Well I am glad to hear he is
Well I am glad to hear he is getting you something! If he was going through all of that for BM, and then not getting you anything, I was going to be mad for you!
HAHAaha, last mothers day we
HAHAaha, last mothers day we were going to my bf's mom with the kid, and we stopped by the florist to by bf's mom some flowers. The kid (9yo boy) thought oh gosh it would be nice to buy something little for his mom too ..........
My bf didnt have money on him, so he told the kid well we cant buy because we have no money. I felt sorry for the kid so i bought stupid flower for his mom. Bf gave me money back later.
Did i hated doing it? Yes. Why did i do it? For the kid. Would i do it again? No way in hell.
I feel you... We did
I feel you... We did something similar last Mother's Day. Won't do it again.
We use coupons too! There's
We use coupons too! There's no shame in saving money.
Plus a lot of stores have some great deals going on. I was able to get DH and I 2 pairs of shoes for the price of one at a major dept. store recently. The store was running a special and I also had a 15% off coupon.
~BettyRay
Wow, in my opinion, skids can
Wow, in my opinion, skids can make something special for her, or do chores to earn some money then go buy something on their own. No way I'm I going to act as their personal shopper.
In theory I agree. The boys
In theory I agree.
The boys do do chores around the house, and we have them pay for things they want with their allowance money. We just haven't had them spend their own money on gifts for BM....but I'm going to be talking to DH about doing this in the future.
~BettyRay
I think it's an excellent
I think it's an excellent idea. I know that I would certainly not enjoy gifts from my children knowing that my ex made the purchases.
I didn't read the comments
I didn't read the comments however if my dh did that i'd hit him over the head with a frying pan! LOL But really I would tell him that if he does this he can sleep at her house b/c obviously he care more about her gift than mine! I would have been way mmore than jsut pissed!
He's getting the cold
He's getting the cold shoulder.
We couldn't talk last night because we had the boys and were decorating the Christmas tree but tonight the flood gates will open.
I plan on letting him know exactly how I feel.
Sometimes men are just plain dumb when it comes to emotions.
~BettyRay