Please pardon the format as this is a compilation from MANY stepparents (mostly NCP StepMOMS) Stacey13, see #37

1. In Genearal: You knew he had kid(s)when you married him

2.In General: You knew what you were getting into

3.In General: Stepparents should be seen and not heard in the parenting arena

4.In General: Stepparents are not REAL parents.

5.From Skid: You're just dads wife./You're just moms husband

6. From Skid: You're NOT my MOTHER!!/ You're NOT my FATHER!!

7. From BM: Is my check in the mail??

8.From BM: I think I will call my attorney

9.Guilty Daddy: He/She is JUST a kid!

10.Guilty Daddy:You don't have children,you don't know what it's like.

11. From Skid(s)to SM: "Where's MY dad?" (not talking to her any other time)

12. "Can't you say anything GOOD about my children?"

13. "You don't like my children"

Editor's note:#9 and #10 (explained) If you've never had children of your own: "You wouldn't know; you're not a mother"

14. If you DO have children of your own that you have raised or are raising successfully: "You're not the perfect parent" or the ever popular "My kids are different" or "My case is special"

15. (see #9) "They're JUST KIDS!" (when SM points out inappropriate behaviour on young skids part)

16. "It's too late for them to change now" (when SM points out uncorrected behaviour in childhood of skids that has escalated to felonious teenage behaviour)

17. "They're late bloomers" (when SM points out to ostrich-dad that his kids are getting all Fs in school)

18. "I don't want to make waves with the BM because it might affect the children" (when SM duly notes that DH is cowering/caving to the BM and skids)

19. "Relax, you worry too much" (when SM brings up legitimate serious concerns)

20. My child comes first

21. I'm not gonna stop being there for my daughter no matter what you say!!

22. Your expectations are too high

23. I can't control what BM does

24. They were here first

25. (Said very proudly)"she is my brat"

26. I don't see my child often enough to teach her manners

27. 'I'm with her for a limited amount of time i can't possibly overturn the sway of her mothers teachings.'

28. 'i let them do what they want because i have no choice'

29. 'i have no power in the situation.i have no control over them.they're not gonna listen to me.'

30. "Society wont let me discipline because I'm a man"

31. "My dad's house" WTH is MY house then and who was paying the bills here and buying the foods for you to eat, (and your meds too?)

32. I'm trying to make it up to them for having such a lousy mother"

33. "How can you blame them for acting out ? Look at what they have been through" (divorce, 15 friggin years ago)

34. "It's harder for a man to be a single parent than a woman"

35. I want to live close to MY kid..."

36. They didn't ASK for this!" (referring to the pooooooooor, piiiiiitttiiiiiful children of broken homes; who get TWO xmases, TWO b-day parties/sometimes MORE than two, TWO easters, etc.)

37. "You need to TRY harder and make MORE of an effort. . .after all YOU'RE the adult here!"

38 Our marriage will never come first. SD will always be my first priority. I will never love you as much as her"

39. "You don't know what you're doing b/c you've never had a child"

40. I feel like I'm stuck in the middle".

41. "He says he does not want them to feel like they can't come to him."

42. "My children are AFRAID of you" (they recognize that you as SM can see through their bullshit manipulation and that everyone else looks the other way)