New to this...New to stepmoming too.
Ohh where do I begin. Lol. This may be really long!
I am 25. I met my boyfriend almost a year ago and we did move very quickly, I will not lie. We were dating a month when he introduced me to his daughter who is now 2 (as of February). We moved in together after only 5 months of dating and now I am in full on mommy mode. Sometimes I can’t recognize myself honestly. BM didn’t accept the relationship until it benefited her. See, I work from home and my bf got a new job that allows for weekends off. We were taking his daughter every weekend and he was dropping her off before work on mondays. That didn’t suit BM because she wanted a “full day off” from work and child. So. Now we take daughter from Sunday afternoon to Wednesday afternoons. That means I watch her while I work and before bf gets home on weekdays. If I want to change the schedule, I become the bad guy because I don’t want to watch daughter for the majority of her time with us. I feel it’s not fair to my bf, who works nights and won’t get home until 11:30 pm and to me because it means less time actually working and I’m in school still. I really need advice on where I fit, what role do I play and how hard should I push the matter? My bf doesn’t seem to want to do activities with all three of us or maybe take her some weeks just on the weekends? Am I crazy for feeling like a babysitter and not a parental figure? Should I even have a right to be a parental figure? I have so many questions.