wow. Lots of feedback last night, thank you all!
Someone said it to me, “I’m not going to tell you to leave because you won’t right now”. You’re right, I love him and ultimately it is our life together. But we did sit down and have a really long talk last night on roles and how I was feeling overwhelmed and slightly over-worked and under appreciated. BF isn’t the best with emotions and said he was sorry for not noticing sooner. He said we can definitely scale back on the weekday visits, and I feel like I’ve been made apart of the discussions now not just that they were made without me. BF wants to do better in the future and has agreed to tell BM that I am allowed in decision making process for schedules going forward.
I also told BF I may need to step back and I think it’s called “disengage” on here? I just need to be less willing o make EVERYONE happy at my own expense. I know I should be happy too so we’re making progress and I hope this makes things better. Only time will tell. It would be so much easier to walk away, but I don’t do easy and maybe some day I’ll post a blog on my own experiences as a stepchild living with my sm and dad and it’ll open more insight as to why I don’t walk away
Thank you to to everyone who posted. It was insightful and helpful to hear from others my age and those who gave me constructive and useful feedback, it is beyond appreciated!!