BM blames me for SS12 failing school
We get nasty messages from BM once in a while. Most messages from her are nasty, hateful rants, but we only receive them on occasion anymore. After celebrating with friends their pending new baby (friends who used to be BM’s friends but ended up only staying friends with DH), we received a message essentially blaming me for SS12’s inability to do schoolwork whether at home or in class. (We actually think someone told her we were at the baby shower she wasn’t invited to and maybe this triggered her desire to yell at DH.)
We waited on any more response than an acknowledgement that we read the message. And like she always does, BM lost her cool and slung some mud. Not only is she out of line blaming me – apparently I don’t punish the kids enough – but she’s incorrect; she seems to think the kids don’t have any consequences in our household and she believes every word out of SS12’s mouth when it comes to what goes on at dad’s house. Even though he lies about homework every single day, she’s grasping at his lies about our home to gain her sympathy. Does she really have no idea that SS12 wants her to think that DH & I let him do whatever he wants, and since he wants to be here anyways, that she’ll cave to the manipulation?
Anyways, DH told her off. Reminded her that she’s the one responsible for most homework issues as she’s the custodial parent and has them 86% of the time during the school year. No nastygram back from her quite yet; she probably doesn’t know how to react to us seeing her game from a mile away.