Ss 20 blames dad for everything wrong about his life and threatened to runaway from home if pushed
DH suffered for 14 yrs before divorcing ex who had 3 kids. Hubby turned a blind eye and ran away from the issues instead of confronting them thinking time would heal but eventually realised it wasn’t healthy living likr this
exwife used hubby to justify her actions instead of accepting responsibility for her cause of breakdown of marriage, they both had a part to play in the downfall and lack of active parenting and nurturing
I told hubby i do not feel respected or valued as a wife and i really don’t want to be married to him anymore and he admitted his son was the worst and that hubby had after divorce and marrying me try to educate son on his ways, behaviour and it was disrespect and excuse after excuse to the point hubby has argued and fought with him over this and ss had the nerve to say to his dad that its all his fault that he’s this way because he neglected them and that if hubby pushes ss to change, be respectful loving in our house, be an active member of this household and not a disrespectful little shit that ss would run away to guilt dad.
hubby now just told me this and that he feels guilty enough and what happens if ss runs away, gets into crime or becomes a criminal, its his fault. I simply told hubby your 3 kids with ex have lived a life seeing their mum scheme her way, manipulate and emotionally blackmail you to get her way and accepted no responsibility for anything wrong she did. So your kids cannot empathise yet allone accept responsibility for their actions. They can’t see there comes a point where as adults they need to accept responsibility for their actions. Are they gonna blame daddy at age 30-40? Thats absurd!!
hubby has seen the big difference in our 2 kids aged 1.5 and almost 3 in helping our around the house with chores, being very affectionate and his kids with ex are an embarrassment to hubby and nothing he can do since they were teens till now as young adults will change them, they’re set in their ways
they lack empathy and compassion, typical everyone else in the world is to blame for their behaviour and attitudes. Honestly i can’t wait for my 2 kids to grow up and tell them to “grow up”.
plenty of us come from broken homes or divorced parents, alot of us aren’t a bunch of arseholes!!
i told hubby him buying their love isn’t helping, he needs to be a parent first. Thats his mistake thinking well if he gives money so they have an easy life they will respect him but they haven’t. They just became greedy inconsiderate little buggers.
this isn’t a healthy life for hubby to live and not normal and hubby shouldn’t continually be accepting this attitude forever. Meanwhile, bio mum who was a major source of the issues and hubby was too afraid to confront her all those years of marriage, she’s absolved of responsibility for anything. These kids do not know how to stand up for themselves one bit, just bully and guilt others and in ss case, laugh if his behaviour is rude and people tell him off basically saying he can’t give a stuff.
The day my 2 kids grow up and call this ss out on all those bad behaviours and that he’s basically a bum thay needs to grow up and deal with the real world needs to happen now. Such a shame we need to wait a few more years