Should I allow my BS13 and BS10 receive Christmas gifts from MIL/FIL?
My children and I haven't talked to/seen my husbands parents for over a year now but they recently asked my husband what my kids want for Christmas. I haven't spoke to them because they get in the middle of how we handle BM and my husband's kids. BM/skids falsely accuse my children and I of everything and anything--physical and sexual abuse for example (which is unfounded, you can read my blog "When is enough...enough?! to get more of a picture of our life).
Its finally over...SD moved out yesterday...I was able to outlast her...
So she packed up and left with nothing to say to DH while I was at work. DH tried to act ok but I knew better. He asked if we could go to his favorite diner up the street for dinner and then we went for a late night shopping trip at Walmart. Now we live in small town and there is only one Walmart shared by three small towns in the area. This always cheers him up because he sees the weirdos that come out and it sorta makes you feel classier..LOL! We actually saw a guy picking his teeth with an ornament hook that was still attached to the ornament...OMG!!!!
Adult SDs...almost like he has "mistresses"
For all of you who deal with the adult SD issue (or maybe even a younger SD), do you ever feel like you are part of a "secret harem"? Like there is another world out there that is all your H's but you are not part of it?
So what should I be called?
I have a ss7 and ss8 who I have been living with and full time mothering for over 3 years. Their BM left them for about a year when they were 2 and 3. They live with BF and I full time. She used to see them every other Saturday 8am - Sunday 6pm. That's 4 days and 2 nights in a month. Most times she would get a babsitter or her mother to watch them when it was her time for visits. For the past 6 months due to some 'issues' on her end she has supervised visits on first and third Sundays for 3 hours. So total of 6 hours each month.
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I only want to give my time/love/gifts to my own child
My husband thought that I would be able to deal better with his son (10 year old-lives with BM) after we had a baby. I'm a new mom to a precious baby boy. Motherhood is amazing! I can't believe the strong emotions a mother feels for her child. But no I struggle so bad when he comes over every other weekend. I'm so happy when he leaves Sunday and my life can get back to normal. It's like our happy little family (the three of us) and then his son comes and it's completely disrupted until he leaves.
How do we respond to this? PAS BS
BM is PASing the skids terribly. When the skids were returned 2 weekends ago, the OSS was crying. When he went home BM sent him to his room and told him to stop crying that his Dad was an "idiot." Then DH picks up the skids tonight and immediately (no prompting) they begin with "Mommy and (her) BF are saying mean things about you and Mumzy79, and we don't like it." These poor kids are being told constantly not to like us, we are "idiots" and the list goes on. How are we supposed to fix this? These poor skids are hurting and I have no godly idea how to combat this.
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Age of consent
Anybody know laws anywhere on whether a 16YO can/cannot make decisions in regard to medicine/medical help, etc...
Case---BM thinks SD16.5 should be taken to get the Swine Flu shot/Flu shot. Our family has never gotten those shots, and have never had any problems--no other health concerns. DH asked SD if she would like to go get one, she said "no way, I ain't getting no shot." Yet BM thinks DH should force her to?????
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Blog for BM's
Does anyone know of any Blog support groups for the BM, especially the NCP BM who only gets visitation? Just wondering what kind of stuff they post up there, what their biggest issues are.
Thanks
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I hate that I always feel guilty...
I'm a full time stepmom of 3, I have one 5 yr old son of my own. When the skids do wrong, I'm the one that usually catches it because my husband is never on top of things. It could be something so simple, like last night I opened my ss drawer and it was packed tight with jeans and jean shorts which I make a point to always have hangers with the clips at each end for him to hang these items on a hanger in his closet so that the doesn't end up ruining the dresser drawers. He has been explained this over and over and over and over....so when I see this I blow up out of control.
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I keep wondering why my husband married me in the first place
This is my first time on this website.
My husband and I both brought children into our marriage from previous relationships.
I have a 12yr old daughter and my husband has a 19yr old daughter and a 17yr old son.
When we first moved in together back in 2003 the kids were 5,12 & 10.
My daughter has always lived with me, her father is not in the picture and we were never married.
My husband on the other hand was married and his ex had an affair and he ended the marriage.
His kids lived with their mom and only came to visit on the weekends.