This is my first time on this website.
My husband and I both brought children into our marriage from previous relationships.
I have a 12yr old daughter and my husband has a 19yr old daughter and a 17yr old son.
When we first moved in together back in 2003 the kids were 5,12 & 10.
My daughter has always lived with me, her father is not in the picture and we were never married.
My husband on the other hand was married and his ex had an affair and he ended the marriage.
His kids lived with their mom and only came to visit on the weekends.

I invited SD17 to go with us to the Christmas Light show. She said she had already gone and it was dumb. She didn't even know which one we were going to! She always complains that we never invite her anywhere with us, and when we do she always says no.
This was the first year I went to this christmas light show and it was freakin' awesome!!! The lights went to the music that we tuned on in the car. She really missed out! Even the SKids were excited!

Last week BM sent the kids home at nine oclock as agreed. But SS11 had not taken a shower or did his homework. His bedtime is 9:00. He had a free birthday pass for one free homework missed assignment. So it was not a big deal... because he still got an a.
I asked BF to remind her that she needs to have his homework done and he needs to have taken a shower.

The battle at home has become intensely heated due to SD and my wifes ways. A little background, wife and I have 2 boys and 2 girls together plus SD. Since day one, I've been open and honest with wife about what I needed in our relationship regarding how to go about raising a family. Above all else I needed honesty. I needed her to know where I stood on children, step or bio, and how it was WE who would decided on how they are raised. I made it clear that this family, which included SD, was what I wanted most in life.

Well, today is my last day at work for a couple of weeks - going to the inlaws tomorrow until the 23rd, then back for Christmas Eve-Christmas morning with SS10, then off to my folks for Christmas dinner.

I only come on here at work because we share a laptop and I want to keep my venting private from my OH, so I would like to take this opportunity to say:

MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

To you all.

Hello my fellow SM's! I just wanted to say a big THANK YOU to each and every one of you that use ST - whether to vent, to give advice, get advice, whomever you are. I want to say THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. I feel like I've literally had an epiphany (sp?) today. Like many of you, I have to deal with a BM that is lazy, practically unemployed, master PASinator, selfish, unappreciative, loser, the list goes on and on.

I'm an adult, so I can handle myself with BM. I don't think I was asking much of her...didn't need to be her best friend or even a friend. But can't we at least get along for the kids sake? She only see's her 2 boys 6 hours out of a month. 6 hours! And she still manages to make their lives so miserable that they are dipressed and have so much anxiety they get headaches and stomach aches. No matter how often we take them to counseling this won't stop until she does (or isn't in their lives). They are 7 and 8 years old. And have had to deal with so much from her.

Despite my previous blog post that seemed to piss a bunch of people off, I am still here. Eh, whaddya gonna do? I've learned to live with pissed off people... seems to be a natural occurring phenomena in my own personal orbit. Don't know why, I'm such sweet and nice guy.

SD is in Child Psychology this year. As part of the class, the teacher always has the students write their mothers a letter to tell them how they feel about them. She does this as they are learning about pregnancy and fetus development, etc.

This teacher knows a little about SD's situation, so she told her she could write to her dad, to me, to her mom.... So SD chose to write to all 3!

I don't know what her dad's letter says. I will find out Monday when he gets back into town!

I was just talking to DH on the phone (he's @ work) b/c DH felt the need to call and ask me what I thought about the following question.

Question...
Do you think we should tell BS11 before or after Christmas that there is no Santa Claus?

Me,"I'm not sure."

DH,"well I think it is time for him to know that there isn't a Santa. Before the kids at school start making fun of him for still believing there is."

Me,"IDK, my parents never told me there wasn't. I figured it out for myself, but I was younger than BS11 when I did."