Steptalk...a place to vent.

When I first found this site - I came on here and vented about my SD, called her few names, complained about my DH and called him a few names too. Thankfully, no one told me that I shouldn't have married my DH or that I hated my SD and that I was a terrible person with misplaced priorities.

Instead, users wrote me and told me how they had felt the same way, what worked for them in my situation and that I wasn't the selfish bitch that I felt I was.

My husband and I have been married for 3 months and lived together for a year and a half prior to the wedding. Since his divorce (3yrs before we got together), his ex has tormented him regarding "child support". To give a little back story, my husband's ex left him and their two children. When she said she wanted a divorce, he helped her move out, find an apartment, etc. He has had custody of the kids ever since.

My S/O has a 19 year old daughter that only calls him when she wants money or a ride somewhere. He admits that she is spoiled and manipulative and should set boundries with her regarding the money and rides, but he doesn't enforce his own rules. I finally told him that I was staying out of commenting on this behavior, that it is between the two of them. However, she does one thing that drives me nuts. She just walks into our house as she is "knocking" if the door isn't locked. If it is locked she will turn the knob and try to come in.

Just a note to say I had my surgery Monday and am recovering ok. I had a tubal ligation in preparation for in vitro. Still not back on the laptop - three small abdominal incisions are healing well but sitting at the PC is not real fun right now. I'm logged on through the phone haha. I miss the site - hope everyone is doing ok.

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well bm JUST called my dh and was crying saying that sd wants to see him and 'that it didnt work out' between her and her man, which we were kinda figuring since sd a few weekends ago mentioned something about bm and her moving somewhere, but then her bf was with them last pickup, so dh wasnt sure. bm and her sister and sd are on the way to dh's apt (we are living a part right now while i finish school) not sure what the hell is going to happen now that she is single.

We have had a situation arise that I would welcome opinions.

Ok...my future stepkids live with us and visit their mother. Okay. We don't get child support, she gets alimony and she does work. My stepchild (14) has been taking money to his mother's house. So yesterday he comes home and I asked him what happened to his $60.00 that was in the envelope that he got for doing his chores around the house and he states that he doesn't know. Then I said could you have lost it or what and then I said did you take it to your mom's and he said no.

I'm not even sure where to begin on this one...and some people might view this as overstepping or trying to hard.

So I'll just get started with the post I wrote on the forum. I know a lot of things will be written here.
Thank you all for letting me vent here, I really needed a forum like this one.

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So everything went better than expected.
Of course my MIL already found out and haven't called to say a thing. Which is good, right?

I had a nice conversation with sk's mom and I don't know how friends we should be...(she used to be my friend back in high school... Loooong story!) Sugestions?

why do grown up step children think its ok to disrespect just because they are of age now? My SD is 21 now and lived with us for 2yrs after her mom passed away in 2004. We never had any problems with one another until recently, I would say the last 2-3 years. After she dropped out of college and moved in with her girlfriend she has become quite the opposite of what she was raised to be. Today I am needing to vent about her RUDE and very hurtful comment to me.