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I am curious to get some opinions about a situation regarding BM over the weekend ....

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Submitted by hayuh on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 10:34am

We have week on week off custody of SS5 in the summer and this past week was S0's week.

BM has alienated herself from all of her friends and family, and is now no longer even talking to her "best friend." Her mom and her step dad are out of town because her step dad's mom is dying.

So, BM calls my SO on Friday crying and saying her car broke down and she has no way to get back to her house, and asks if he will come and get her and take her to her house. His immediate answer was no. Pretty much a hell no, you fing crazy. She started crying because she had her 2month old infant with her and where we live with the heat index it was nearly 111 degrees out. So he hesitates and still says no, and she again starts crying

saying she has "2month old" with her and she cant leave him out in the heat. So SO tells here he will call her back in a minute after he talks to me.

SO comes into the kitchen and all he says is "well that was "crazybitch" and her car broke down and she wants us to come and pick her up and take her to her house." My immediate reaction was hell no. And then SO told me that she had "2month old" with her.
I didn't really know what to say at first except for no. But I thought about it and if it was just her, then my answer would definitely be a hell no. But I couldn't leave that baby out in the heat burning up. I don't know. I know it is not our responsibility to do anything for her or the baby. But at the same time I don't feel like its the baby's fault that she is a crazy and has no friends to help her out or anybody to take her home. We both agreed that we couldn't leave the baby out there in the heat. So we agreed that we would take her to her house.

We were having a few people over that night, and I was making the food and getting ready for it so I couldn't go. SO wanted me to go with him, but I told him there was no way I could. So SO took his cousin with him so he wouldn't have to go by himself and left SS5 with me.

SO's family thinks we are crazy for doing that and we should've told her no and that it wasn't our responsibility to pick her up. I can see why some people think we shouldn't have done anything. But if it wasn't for the baby we wouldn't have, and we do know we didn't have too.

I am just curious to see what some of you guys on here think, or would've done in this situation.

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Submitted by poisonivy on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 10:40am

I commend you for your actions....

but my BM wants DH so bad she could die, I don't trust her within 10 feet....Personally, I would have called her a cab or a police officer...

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Submitted by stepkate on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 10:47am

You did the right thing. Your SO's family is just looking out for their own child in the situation with their comments, but you did the right thing.

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Submitted by hayuh on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 10:52am

I don't trust her. I am sure she would love him back. But I do trust SO. SO however wanted somebody to go with him just because he didn't want to be alone with her so he took his cousin with him.

And despite what SO's family thinks we should've done, I would still make the same decision. However if it became a reoccurring situation where this happened often, I might feel differently or re-evaluate things.

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 11:28am

You were good people to do that for her. As long as she doesn't make it a habit...I despise BM and tell my DH that she better NEVER get in our car, but one time they were at an event with SS and it ended very late and she had SD with her, so he drove them home. I was furious, but the rational part of me understood he didn't do it for her, he did it for his daughter who was with her.
I still hated the idea.

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Submitted by KTL on Mon, 07/19/2010 - 11:36am

I think it was nice of you to offer to pick her up, if anything your ss5 will later know you were cival to his sister. You step mom's should keep journels for these Skid's so later in life when they have been told your step parent was no good, you will have the memories on paper, Sorry im a poor speller. How could you not be Thankful for someone that is helping to mold and care for your child? If someone was going to spend time with my children, eat crow, be polite what ever it took to be aquainted with the people in my childrens life. Some BM and BD are so "STUPID"

Thanks!
Im a step daughter, step mother of 2 families.