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Gana's picture

Ok...My fiance's stepkids are 16 and 14 and they live with us and visit their mother. She doesn't pay child support and she does NOW work and also gets alimony. My question is about six months ago we asked her to contribute to driving school and she stated that she was advised via a letter that her attorney advised not to do so because she doesn't have to and it would help reduce our insurance and would not benefit her..okay whatever. She does not buy any school supplies or lets just say nothing at all.

It's a long road

zuzieq611's picture

It’s a long road…..

Well DH is home, temporarily at least. SS14 is still at MIL’s at least for the rest of this week. We talked until well after midnight last night trying to work it out. SS14 has no where else to go…BM doesn’t want him, MIL doesn’t want him, uncles etc.

Officially Broken Up

stepkate's picture

I know that it was the right thing, but for some reason I just couldn't do it myself. BF and I talked yesterday, and he started the conversation by asking me if I was happy. I took about, er, 15 minutes to think of a good way to say 'no' and he said that he hadn't been happy either.

My sublease ends this month, and I'll admit that in the back of my mind, I was thinking that I was going to move back in with him.

"its over"

grayskies's picture

those are the lovely words dh told me tonight after the umpteenth argument about ss17. i had disengaged, previously, and dh said it was hurting him to know that he was like a "single parent" living with his wife. so we tried this again. we talked and talked about his guilt-parenting, how it effects the whole family, our own baggage, etc. we had family meetings, i said that i could not live in a house any longer where i was the maid, chauffeur, chef, etc and ss17 had no responsibilities at all. he does nothing but play video games and text his friends.

Am I unreasonable or is an EOD arrangement completely ridiculous?

AlexandraL's picture

When my BF came to me during our break (initiated by me)he said he was going to change a lot of things in his life, including EOD (yes, you read it right!) arrangement to EOWE with one dinner date during the week. Against my gut, I've been spending time with him, trying to wait to see the developments. However, I just cannot wait anymore for something that could take two months or two years and it might not even make a difference with us!

New Stepmom, looking for advice with 8yr old boy...

8ming4it's picture

I am hoping to get some advice. I am not married yet but will be in 2 months. We (my fiance and I) recently bought a house and his son's mother decided that now is the perfect time to allow him to come and stay with his dad. Typically, his dad has him for the summer and holidays, spring break, etc. For sake of this post, I will call him Jr. Well, I have been exposed to Jr. every summer for the past 3 years (living in my home) and he is now 8. Jr. has never really been disrespectful, more so, he just acts like I don't exist unless I am doing something for him or taking him somewhere.

Princess (SD18) is a bigger idiot than I originally thought! long, kinda funny,sad teenage girl nonsense...

Last-Wife's picture

She's been getting on my nerves for many, many reasons these last few weeks. For example, we discovered last week (due to notices sent from the bank) that she has bounced MANY checks this summer. When looking into her bank records with her, we discovered she made over $1500 since May at her summer job. Great, right? She spent just under $1900! :jawdrop: She was borrowing from her savings account to cover her butt. She blew threw every penny she made, plus her whole savings account. Just since Graduation on May 15.

Jesse James porn star ex has more custody than FDH!!

luckykell's picture

I'm a total tabloid junkie,and I was just checking out the latest on TMZ. Yeah, the courts are giving Janine (Jesse's porn star, drug using, felon-marrying, crazy ass ex) weekend overnight visitations. She gets her every weekend, starting after school on Fridays.

FDH only see's SD6 EOW b/c BM is a lying POS.

Ugh...I know life isn't fair, but sometimes it just plain sucks!

Control-freak

antidrama's picture

I need some suggestions as to how to deal with a crazy BM. I always knew the BM was going to be an issue but it keeps getting worse and worse. BM's perspective is that she is more important than anybody else because she is the MOTHER. The child's father is nothing more than a monthly paycheck (that she tells the SD he hardley ever gives her even though he often gives it to her EARLY to bail her out)...even though he is the rational & responsible parent.

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