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car accident and bm's reaction

violetforest's picture

Everyone is doing better. ss was driving my car with his permit and rolled it with hubby and myself in the car last week.

ss and Hubby were able to walk away from the accident, ambulance was called for myself and we insisted on ss being taken to the hospital also because of it being a roll over (can't say enough positive about the car and the safety and how it protected us). We were in a very rural area and the drive to the nearest hospital is normally aournd 1/2 hour to 45 min. so it took a while for help to arrive and for them to get us into the hospital because of my injuries. Hubby was holding c-spine on ss until the ems showed up and then he was checked out on site, spoke to law enforcement while he rode with the officer who escorted ss and myself to the hospital.

Hubby's phone was damaged in the accident and mine was no where to be found. Since ss was with me in the ambulance he had no way of getting the bm's phone number until he reached the hospital. (we do not have any of bm's relative's numbers or contacts since he had no phone) ss was cleared very soon after reaching the hospital but when hubby got there ss was in ex-ray making sure, so hubby was not able to get to his phone until he came back to er. At that time hubby used ss's phone to contact bm about the accident.

ss and bf attempted to tell bm that he was fine and all she wanted to do was threaten custody and court action, make accusactions about myself and make rude statements about how she wished that ss had "finished" the job. (at this point I was still in c-spine, strapped to the gurney and there was a concern for internal bleeding) She began bitching because bf did not call her from the accident scene, like bf should have let go of ss's neck to make a call to her! What if ss would have been hurt! Stupid bitch! I am a bm as well as a stepparent and I do understand that you get scared and say things but there is no call for this. I'm sure that her son would feel much worse than he does now if he would have accidentally killed me instead of me having injuries. ss said that she did not even ask how he was, she was more concerned with yelling at bf.

Bm has already called to get copies of the police report and ss's hospital records so that she "he" can sue our insurance company, she has filed additional court papers claiming that bf did not contact her in a timely manner. We were also contacted by the hospital to be told that bm attempted to gain access of my medical records on the accident. (hippa protected documents) BM has currently been court ordered to return copies of other records that she has in her posession but that she has no legal right to have that include hippa protected documents.

I would really like something in my life to be private, I know that ss was driving the car, but he was the one who wrecked MY car!!! and she is acting like it was one of us and that he was hurt. Doctor cleared him and he has not complianed of any issues. But me I get to use a walker, wear a brace and not do anything for a min. of 6 weeks.

This is not what I signed up for! I knew that she was part of the package but she doesn't have a right to interfere with my life.

f-in bitch ! Yes I'm venting, I'm in pain on some pretty good meds from what they tell me and I am thinking of getting into the port.

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KTL's picture

Im go glad your not as hurt as you could be, Hope your feeling better. It was a real eye opener for my father, 30 year old drug addicted step sister fell on my parents well my dad's and step mother's porch, down the steps, I'de bet she was drunk or high, can you believe she sued their home owners insurance!! She lives on law suits, had mentioned she does not feel she is treated like a sister! We can not believe what trash she is, she use to mooch off them for years, now my father is dead, never ever hear from her like she really wanted to be family, we do not even know where they live? I hope you get well soon.

KTL

violetforest's picture

Yes, we were very lucky. I cant even think about if ss would have been hurt or killed.

there was a truck that was riding the center line as it came around the corner of a bend in the road. Being a new driver he over compensated and there was according to the officer on the scene a great deal of loose gravel on the paved road that they called the county to remove after the accident so when the car hit the gravel we slid. I think that the car would have come to rest without rolling but there was a 4 foot high electrical metal marker pole that the back end of the car hit and they think that is what caused the car to flip over.

None of us can really remember anything. Hubby was in the back and I was looking down at a map so the other drivers that showed up were giving statments about what they witnessed I guess. I have not seen any of the reports yet.

As for insurance we are lucky - hubby has full coverage medical (which we pay a portion of each month through his employer and we had not only vehicle insurance that carried a medical rider but "gap" insurance since it was a newer car and we had a bank loan out on it yet - thankgoodness)

Most Evil's picture

Wow I am sorry you got hurt and wish you a speedy recovery - I also wish your BM would remove the foot from her mouth, that is really ugly things to say no matter who you are? Get well soon-!!!!