So because of the holiday & all the kids activities we have hardly seen the kids this month. I really hate this. We had hopes since there were no ball games tonight that we could have the kids for our dinner night tonight & they could go with us & dismantle the used swingset we bought this weekend & need to pick up tonight, well yesterday when DH asks BM ionforms him that SS11 has a band concert tonight. When Dh says something about no heads up, she comes back with " well I just found out Thursday" What, she couldn't email on Friday???

Ugh so i am still a little peeved. As i have said in my previous blogs i care about my SS(3) i really do. I am going through the adjustment stage of being a stepmom just like he is adjusting to going back and forth between our house and him BM house. He is driving me crazy and i find myself getting so annoyed and angry when he does something wrong. He likes to play dumb while he is here, if we ask him to do something he acts like he doesnt know what you are talking about so that you will just do it for him.

Last night I picked up 3-month old DS, SS3 and SD6 from daycare and brought them home. I realized FDH wasn't home yet so I called him to see when he would be. He said he had to work until 7pm and that he had a softball game at 8! He said, "Yeah I kind of forgot to ask BM if we could switch nights tonight." I got short with him and was annoyed and got off the phone because SS3 was crying about something.

Bi polar drug addict SS21 moving 10 mins away from us. Has been in and out of some form of rehab for the past year. For the last 6 months he has been living in another state. BM claims he has gone through 12 step program - don't believe because he has not apologized to DH for what he did. Nothing has changed - still no job, not even talking about getting a job. Blames mental illness on everything even though his therapist said there is no reason why he cant hold a job. Just does not want to.

This is a rather long story, but hopefully I can get some good advice! I was married b/4 for 8 yrs, we have 4 children together. We got a divorce 3yrs ago and I married an old boyfriend from my younger highschool years and moved to south dakota to be with him and closer to my family. We hadnt seen each other in 10yrs and he wasent the nicest to me back in the days(granted we were young) he actually dumped me for his first wife, which made a lot of conflict between me and her.

SS wants to get some of his original documents and photos from his mother's house. But after everything that happened, he does not want to go and get them. He asked my husband to go get them. Ok, how do we even go about asking for them? SS is terrified that his mother might do something crazy and destroy the documents. He only has photocopies of a few, like his birth certificate and medical records. He said they are in a box in the garage. He also wants some family photos, of himself, his aunt and his grandfather who he loved a lot. What are we supposed to do? Just call her up?

i love my daughters unconditionally and would go to the end of the world for them. I adore and cherish my bf, he has brought much needed light and stability and appreciation nto my and my daughters lives. I have and xhusband who becomes less of a Man as time goes by. Was never abusive to children, just doesnt appreciate anything except himself. Sometimes I wish more and more that he would just go away...others I'm glad for my girls that they have thier bio-dad actually involved in their life.

Well for those of you that follow my horrific story of my SD15 and BM, last night was interesting. After a year of virtually no communication from SD15 except for two dinners with DH and one was only to get her Birth Certificate, SD called at 9:30 last night for DH to come get her she needed to get out of the house and away from her mom. OMG!!!

DH said he would come and they could go somewhere to talk. He got off the phone and I said she is not coming here. He said he wasn't bringing her back, but he would talk to her.

So, my last blog entry about the BM and the whole facebook drama thing blah blah blah....this is a continuation of it....

I tried giving the bm a chance (even though deep down, my gut told me DON'T TRUST HER). Of course, I was right about that.

When her little facebook game started, she would post things that were clearly directed towards me. When I saw that, I was disgusted! She acted like she just wanted to be friends, and get to know me beause I would be in her daughter's life...and I have nothing to hide.

So the bf and I talk Disney. How fun it would be for all of us to go. We talk about where we are with the things we have, and what we need, and if we have the extra cash to plan a trip. We decide that it would be an amazing thing to do for the little ones. We talk about going right before Christmas, maybe a week or 2 before (there's no way the bm would let us take daughter ON christmas)