Well for those of you that follow my horrific story of my SD15 and BM, last night was interesting. After a year of virtually no communication from SD15 except for two dinners with DH and one was only to get her Birth Certificate, SD called at 9:30 last night for DH to come get her she needed to get out of the house and away from her mom. OMG!!!

DH said he would come and they could go somewhere to talk. He got off the phone and I said she is not coming here. He said he wasn't bringing her back, but he would talk to her.

Fast forward to an hour later and I am a wreck inside, figuring this is it, my marriage is back in turmoil again. He came home laughing and gloating...Apparently they were fighting over her not wanting to have to sit at school after her exams. No one could get her because they had to work and she didn't want to wait. Funny!!! DH said he let her talk and vent. Didn't solve her problem and did not tell her she could come here. Then after an hour he just dropped her back at her mom's. She did say I love you and he thinks she meant it.

Well apparently things are not so great at BM's. They fight all the time. Well that will happen when you give a teenager a ton of freedom and the minute you ground them, they are not going to like it.

We talked and I made it clear, I would not stay in the house on the week she was here. I would come back every time she left. He said if she came here it would be full time and she would have little visitation with her mom. And there would be rules, lots of rules. I said she would have to apologize to me for the lies and manipulation. Also she would not be getting any type of vehicle here. She spent that 10K on the lawyers when she sued us.

She did mention to DH that when she ran into us on the golfcart path the night before, her friends asked who I was and she said I hated her and I was number 23 on that list. Unreal, I haven't spoken to her in over a year. Last conversation before she left, I told her I was disappointed in her lying to us for the last 6 months. He answer was I don't care. I said that is a shame, you should. No more after that. I did not say hello, I just stared. I could not believe that a girl could drive past her father and just say Hi after dad says hello SD15. This all took place about 45 seconds. I am shocked at the lack of respect that this kid has for an adult in her life. She has no compassion for anyone and no respect. This is what happens when you do not parent a child and just want to be there friend....Why do these parents not see this?

This girl is a brat....I do not want that turmoil in my life. I am sure others here will think I am wrong for putting that way to DH. But, I can not live with her again. We have been great lately. We are so looking forward to a summer together since my son has a job away all summer. His son is going to summer camp and then is only here three weeks alone.

We get to be empty nesters and go away for short trips and have a Vegas trip planned. I do not want her here to jeopardize any of that. DH said he would not be doing it this summer anyway, since she would be grounded and then we would all be miserable.

I am so proud of him for not asking her to come home, but I am also apprehensive of what this means for us and our future. Will this child keep playing ping pong between parents? BM said she did it to make her mad. I am sure she did. This kid is a master manipulator. I just do not want a life of this. I did mention the $10K to DH last night, because that is the one thing that will keep him angry. He is someone that values money and constantly saves. The anger when he had to write the checks to the lawyers should keep him angry enough with her to make her life miserable if she does move back.

On a side note, I have a busy week with the planning of my son's Eagle Court of Honor this weekend, family and friends flying in and a new client and the last thing we have time for is this. When it rains it really pours....