"Bonus Daughter" What kind of crap is this?
Seriously don't post much anymore, because my life is actually pretty good regarding this stuff. Although BM has pulled some interesting crap recently. But, not my issue, left it to DH to handle. But, a new poster who I think is just a BM that is bored, called her kids "Bonus" kids.
Sorry, but that is irritating as hell. These kids are our steps on here. In real life, I make sure people know my SD is my step since I do not want anyone to think I raised that. As for my SS17, he is my son. I have been raising him full time for years now and he is my son. Will he ever be equal to BS20, no. But, I do not reflect that with him. I am "mom, although he doesn't call me that. I think it is disrespectful to his real mom, who definitely doesn't deserve the title.
Bonus, makes them all sound like a bonus that we got for working hard. Yeah, not so much. No bonus, they came along for the ride and they are our step kids. No more, no less.
BONUS just makes me want to slap somebody. My SD19 is a train wreck who damn near has destroyed my marriage and has certainly destroyed any chance I have of having any relationship with my IL's. Long ugly story. She was not a "bonus", she is a curse. I don't care how it sounds, but 6 years of torture, I have a little PTSD when it comes to her. BONUS...definitely not.
If you do have a good relationship with your step kids, I would hope you refer to them in public as your kids. Anything less, is cruel.
Sorry, but that just irritated the hell out of me. I wish it was different, but it is not and I will spend the rest of my life waiting for that other shoe to drop with that girl. Seriously, BONUS?