BM always in control
So because of the holiday & all the kids activities we have hardly seen the kids this month. I really hate this. We had hopes since there were no ball games tonight that we could have the kids for our dinner night tonight & they could go with us & dismantle the used swingset we bought this weekend & need to pick up tonight, well yesterday when DH asks BM ionforms him that SS11 has a band concert tonight. When Dh says something about no heads up, she comes back with " well I just found out Thursday" What, she couldn't email on Friday??? She is constantly texting her BF & her criminal BFF but she can't give us a heads up about the concert.
So DH emailed her this am & asked if SS13 could skip the ball practice that just got scheduled yesterday ( which he would need to inorder to attend the concert) and go with us because we could use his help. No freaking answer, her favorite trick when she doesn't like something.
We can't afford to waste money on court, and the decree was written when they were 5 & 7 & was left open that mom & dad could negotiate things as the kids got older. Problem is she gets the ultimate decision.
It just irritates me as we live where we do so we can see the kids daily but she signs them up for so much stuff that interfers with the afterschool time when we would have them Plus SS11 is such a skatterbrain that he should not have so much going on. Funny thing about band is he never practices because according to BM there is no time. Well then why be in band?
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Her dictating is not the two
Her dictating is not the two of them compromising. He should drag her ass back into court for a firm parenting schedule.
I wish he could afford to
I wish he could afford to take her back to court, I just refuse to throw what little savings I have left away on that. It is sad because the kids are good kids but the older they get the more she signs them up for or tries. DH is always that bad guy. She has such a hard time sharing her babies, yet she is always on the run or has her BF kids around and or her BFF the criminals kids. BM's house is kind of a free for all, or she is dragging the kids an hour away to the BF's house.
It really shouldn't cost much
It really shouldn't cost much of anything for him to ask for this... I paid nothing in my divorce (and my XH hired an attorney and then never paid him of course) and our parenting time is completely organized.
Well not sure that a firm
Well not sure that a firm parenting guideline works either. What we get is SS14 decides. We live 40 min away from his BM. SS hates spending time with us now- which all changed when SD moved back to BMs from college- up until then he was pleasant to be around.
So you push for visitation and make it enforceable and the kids wind up hating you.......don't force them and they think you don't care.
It doesn't cost anything to
It doesn't cost anything to file. If you are documenting everything and saving texts and emails, you could put on a pretty good case yourself.