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Bullying- being made fun of

sweetthing's picture

SS 11 plays baseball. BM is an assistant coach for his team this year. Their team has not won a single game all season & pretty much suck. None of the kids are very good. Because all 3 kids are playing ball & someone needs to be home to get work done I haven't been at any of his games and only to a couple of ss13's. DH hasn't been to that many because he has been taking SS13 to his or coaching BS t ball with me.

So DH tells me that BM told him that two boys on SS 11 's team have been teasing him & making fun of the way he throws. They have given him a nick name & even chant it at him when he is up at bat. Instead of confronting the kids herself, she went to the head coach who has not done anything about it. Both kids are brats, one is trailer trash & mouthy to adults & the other SS used to be friends with, this kid is always in trouble & his mom is a right wing liberal whose vehicle is COVERED with political bumper stickers & this is her only child. Neither are good ball players just assholes.

So last night SS11 helped me coach t ball, since we had some one on one, I took it upon myslef to discuss the situation with him. His mom has told him to just ignore them, but that is not working, they are still doing it & it throws his game off. I told him this, when they doing it, stop what you are doing turn to them & give them the look ( as if they were dog poo on your shoe) then loudly say, Since Gardy ( head coach of the Twins) hasn't called you up to the big leagues yet, why don't you work on your game and I'll worry about mine. And then resume what you are doing. I told him you can't just let people push you around.

I am worried ( as is mom & dad) about his starting middle school this year. His mom is worried he will fall in with the wrong crowd because he is a follower. I am worried because if you have kids that pick on you it sets the entire stage from then till high school. He is smart, attractive and a good kid, a little bit drifty though.

Does anyone think that ignoring a bully works? This is not a BM vs SM thing, but my really wanting others opinions. I was picked on as a child from kingergarden through highschool by 1 girl. So this is something I feel very stongly about.

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sweetthing's picture

Thankfully we only have 1 more week & then the big kids are done. My concern is that these two will still mess with him when school starts. I feel like I need to make it to one of these last games and see what can be done. Both DH & Bm can give it to each other like there is no tomorrow but aren't so hot about standing up to others.

hismineandours's picture

If bm is the assistant coach she needs to tell the coach that she is sitting these two out since they are bullying other players. As long as others have witnessed the bullying then I would proceed with sitting them out. Bullying is not tolerated in schools (I know it still occurs but when it si brought to prinicipals attention there is typicaly a consequence) and is shouldnt be happening in sports. This is very poor sportsmanship and an incredible lack of teamwork. This is what youth sports is supposed to be teaching kids-how to be part of team, sportsmanship, etc not just how to play the game.

sweetthing's picture

Hismineandours I totally agree, however it seems as if the head coach & the other dads treat BM as someone worthy to pick up the equipment ect... but don't really listen to her imput. It totally sucks because ( I am totally sticking up for BM OMG) because she has devoted a lot of hours to the team & has missed out on attending a lot of SS13's games which are a whole lot more exciting because they actually win games.

I am surprise because she has balls the size of cannon balls with Dh but not so much with others.