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BM of my SS7 and SD5 is has no rules. Took my husband's time away from him today to take the kids to the pool and told them dad might ruin their day by taking them from the pool. Except not only does she not have rules and allows whatever they want, she tells them their BD is mean to them for making them follow rules and SS7 told me he isn't even allowed to say my name there or she gets "ALL WEIRD" and yells at him. SD5 thinks she doesn't have to do anything I tell her because her bm has told her not to listen to me and rewards her for that behavior when she gets back to her house.

This is not about promoting another website but believe its important for the members and administration know what has happened at a similar board.

The Pyscho Ex Wife started off as a blog by a man going through a contentious divorce with his BPD ex-wife. No names ever mentioned, no identifying information.

His ex-wife discovered the website and brought the issue to Court and the Judge in the matter has threatened the man with taking his children away and placing him in jail if he does not remove the website and its contents.

DH's kid (d15) has one chore. Just one (with the expected pick up after yourself and keep your room reasonably clean). Wash the dishes before we get home from work. That's it.

Now, we've lived in this house for 5 years and I have never rearrange the kitchen or dining area in that time. Last night I'm making a salad for dinner and can't find the cutting board. It wasn't where it's supposed to be. I finally find it and I'm irked. Not mad, just annoyed because this happens all of the time.

Okay, this is probably reeeaaaalllly stupid that I am hemming and hawing over this, but if it is, so be it. I don't know what to do.

Here's the deal: I am BM of a five year old girl. Her Dad and I share 50/50 every other week custody and placement. Last week my DD's SM had a baby. We arranged for DD to stay at her Dad's an extra day or two so that DD could see the new baby. She was really excited about it.

I've been in this child's life since she was 2! I have changed her diapers, nursed her fever, loved her, disciplined her, yelled at her, laughed with her, the list could go on. Yet I always feel like it's up to her BD & BM to have the "talks" with her. I NEVER discuss her mother with her.....that one IS up to her Dad.

Well my DH and I had a blowout this morning and I was crying and he took SS out and went to McDonalds and left me there with our daughter. I felt so discouraged and even asked him if he wanted our daughter and me to be here when he got back. He looked shocked that I would even say that. Maybe that is the kick in the ass he needed, I have never threatened to leave before. I honestly think that he thought I would keep laying down and taking it forever. He told me he doesn't want me and our daughter to leave, that he loves us, and that we are the most important things in his life.

Nutshell:

The other day at her doctor appt., BM got the idea from something the doctor said in passing that I had requested for SSs records to be transferred to another doctor. (I never did this; recently I had my records transferred to a doctor who was closer and then I requested for DH's to be as well- small family practice, they got the ball rolling but of course needed authorization from him before they could actually transfer the records.)

Mazzy-I hope you dont' mind I quoted you on this to start my blog. But I would LOVE to discuss this issue more with other bio-moms who experience fighting between steps. Your statement shook me because it's exactly how I feel-it's hard to describe. At first I tried to say "all siblings fight" or "they are learnign pecking order" or "she's jealous of the boys stability"...but the strong emotions that go behind it when she hits one of them or evern roughhouses...vs how I feel when my own two boys go at it (and they do, both roughhousing and fighting)-it's hard to describe.

Well its been a while since I have blogged on here and I have to say I miss it. I gave birth to my son a few months ago so time is something I do not have much of anymore so I am glad I found some to write.

My 13 yr sd, is worse than ever. She basically rules my husbands life and he lets her. I have finally took a step back. I had to, I now have a child that I have to teach to be respectful and I WILL!