just went to store with SO and old neighbor (from when SO lived with EX) saw him at store talking about how nice his family was (talking about ex and skids) and how nice the dog they have is. Ugh. just another day in the life. I dont know why i ever agreed to be in this kind of situation sometimes. If i had to choose again i probably wouldnt do it.

Does any one know how long it takes (the process) and how much they charge?

I'm pregnant! This will be my first biokid, and I'm super excited.

DH has told BM and SS5, and all has gone well. Lets hope they both adjust well.

So, my fiancee is in court today for CS reduction and maintenance removal ($2500/month) BM is going after him to pay for cheerleading and other extracurricular activities ($1,000/month) She's turned the kids against him because he can't afford to do everything they want to do when they come over on the weekends (waterparks, amusement parks), shopping, etc.... She gives them everything they want, but still expects him to pay for it.

Ok, I already know this is going to push buttons and have several different opinions but here it goes anyway. The BM of my SS wanted to "talk" to me and my DH about 2 years ago about disciplining the SS when he is with us.

Soooo I haven't posted in a while, and I guess that's because things have been pretty good.

Life is still hectic. We still fight about stupid things. There are some concerns about FDH's company losing work. But, overall, things are good.

Well, meeting is scheduled. Two weeks from now. I'm pretty sure she wants to meet to try and exhert control. I've been doing a lot of research and it's really obvious she is a PA/HAP parent. So, the trick i guess for now is to make her feel important, let her say whatever she wants, and make sure she knows i don't want to take her role as mother. Will it help? Probably not. At least i tried.

SD, 12 wants a perm. BM called to discuss this with DH and said that the hairdresser told her that she cannot have a perm because "she hasnt gone through puberty yet and the bone in her head isnt fully developed so the perm wont take".

This seems like the most far fetched thing I have ever heard but just wondering if anyone else had heard this???

I'm not invited to my stepdaughter's wedding. SD conveniently set the date for during the first week of the school year, so there's no chance I could go. I thought she might just leave it at that, but last night she told DH that if I did attend, she and her fiance would just go to the courthouse and skip the ceremony. That's what SS28 did to avoid the drama, so I wouldn't put it past SD. DH didn't get to see either of his sons get married. SS31 didn't invite him because of issues between DH and the skids' maternal grandmother.

I've realized that since SO works mostly on the weekends (leaving me on SD duty) that I am completely drained and feeling pretty frustrated by Sunday evening. Sunday evening and MonDAY are the times when I feel most down and generally "blah" about this whole SM thing. However, I do feel like I have it pretty good for my situation. SO is supportive of me, backs me up, and refuses to let BM have my phone number or interact with me (doesn't really matter at the moment since we have no idea where she is now anyway...drugs and skeezy short-term boyfriends).