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Submitted by Mousie1972 on Tue, 06/28/2011 - 3:37pm

So, my fiancee is in court today for CS reduction and maintenance removal ($2500/month) BM is going after him to pay for cheerleading and other extracurricular activities ($1,000/month) She's turned the kids against him because he can't afford to do everything they want to do when they come over on the weekends (waterparks, amusement parks), shopping, etc.... She gives them everything they want, but still expects him to pay for it.

He's had so much anxiety lately that he's not sleeping, he's been drinking and having panic attacks. He's already heartbroken that his daughters want nothing to do with him, yet he sends them all a text message every morning saying "i love you and I miss you, please talk to me". They only respond when they want money, other than that they have nothing to do with him.

And if that isn't enough to make him have a nervous breakdown, he just let me know she brought their 18, 17 and 13 year old daughters with her to court. WHY WOULD SHE DO THAT??????

Something I forgot to mention, she's an alcoholic and the 2 oldest girls have moved out of her house, she's also almost been kicked out of 2 houses and her kids have seen her kiss another woman and have knowledge of her having affairs with both men and women while married to their father.

My stomach is in knots, I can't stop crying for him and just want to rage at all of them. I told him to ask his lawyer if he can contest their being present in the courtroom.

Any thoughts?? I really appreciate it. I feel so alone and hurt for him because I know his heart is breaking.

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Submitted by Mousie1972 on Tue, 06/28/2011 - 4:03pm

My thoughts exactly, why would a judge allow them to be present? The only reason they want to be there is because they want to get more $ out of him to pay for college and cheerleading but what they don't understand is because of their mother he had to declare bankruptcy and his credit is shot now. He had to go to this bankruptcy trustee and fill out 100 forms so he could get a loan for a car he can barely afford.
As for the 13 year old, she is like their "special" child so pretty much gets whatever she wants. He felt bad about making her miss doing things with her friends so let her stay home.
Yes, in Colorado it's called Maintenance. To keep her in the "lifestyle" she was accustomed to. Whatever in the hell that means. He paid all the bills with his check while she overindulged their children and her disease.
The 2 youngest girls are in cheer which is $300/each and his son was moved to a private school because he couldn't work independently.

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Submitted by Mousie1972 on Tue, 06/28/2011 - 4:13pm

Thank you! Yes, there will be a judges decision today. I will keep you informed. Thank so much for the support. I'm at work and just feel all alone and like I'm going to come out of my skin. This helped a lot!

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Submitted by Rags on Tue, 06/28/2011 - 5:44pm

If the Judge won't have the kids removed initially, this fix is simple. DH or his attorney need to make a motion to exclude witnesses from the court room.

It is my understanding that the judge must support that motion if it is made. That was certainly the case in my SS's case. His SpermIdiot did not want SpermGrandMa in the court to hear all of the evidence we were bringing against him (arrest records, inappropriate sexual relationships with minors, etc, etc, etc.....) so his attorney moved to exclude witnesses. We were fine with any and all witnesses being in the court room during the trial or anyone else for that matter.

Anyway, present a motion to exclude witnesses is my advice. Make sure that the SDs are on his witness list even if he does not actually call them to the stand.

Good luck.