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Re-Channeling my Anger into Something Positive

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Submitted by Sweetie on Tue, 03/28/2006 - 7:18pm

Sometimes I think that it's really hard for women to get men to understand that they are from a completely different planet. My husband took a situation in which I was having a bad day and for some reason could not figure out how to step in as a friend would normally do, and ask, what do you need me to do for you? For the life of me, I just can't understand, how he can't figure it out. So, I do find it very challenging not to completely lose my temper with him because I have been at home with 3 dogs and painted part of a fence and then come back into the house.

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Submitted by 228miner on Mon, 03/27/2006 - 12:20pm

Well here is the story. My fiance wants to move his daughter (14) in with us. My daughter (12) and his do not get along. She hasn't lived with him for seven years. She lives with her so called mother that puts boyfriends before her childs care. Spends all the child support we pay out over 100 a week on herself. The kid looks like a bum. Although I feel sorry for her I myself find it hard to be around her because she has this attitude and I don't wnat to be a party to it in my home. The hosue is mine , my name and all but I love him dearly.

Adult stepson expecting support forever - advice wanted

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Submitted by Nellie on Thu, 03/23/2006 - 5:01pm

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Adult Stepchildren

Does any one have any experience or advice for dealing with an adult stepson that continues, at age 21, to request support from both his Dad (my husband) and his mother?

He graduated from high school almost 4 years ago and has not worked in 6 months. He has worked a little part time off and on (less than half the time) since high school but mostly he has lived with friends in casual couch surfing / garage etc. arrangements or with various relatives and never really been self supporting for any period of time before lapsing back into mooching mode. Right now he is living with his mother but wants to move back to our city and has been asking to move back in with us. I don't want him to move back in and so far my husband is respecting my wishes. In the past when we have agreed to let this stepson move in "temporarily" it has been difficult to get him to get a job and move out, and he does not respect the "drug free house" rule (he smokes marijuana and started doing cocaine last year - I don't know what he is doing now at his mom's, where he has been for the last 5 months). His last roommates kicked him out for behaving strangely - agression, hostility, bizarre acts - this was at the height of the cocaine taking. He has called all his friends in town and nobody will take him in any more. He has asked more than once to move in here - I worry that my husband will either cave in and say he can come to our home again, or start resenting me for trying to prevent him from coming here.

Positive Weekend

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Submitted by smcpaw on Tue, 03/21/2006 - 12:59pm

Although my boyfriend's daughter still hasn't come over or even called her dad since the last explosion with biomom, I had a better weekend with my own daughter. My boyfriend is becoming more accepting of living with my teenager (I think he feels bad because his daughter doesn't come over). My daughter had been acting out because she was jealous of my time being taken from her because of now living with my boyfriend.

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