I am a stepmother of a 10 year old girl. My husband and I have been with each other for about 3 years now.

My stepdaughter has gone from bad to totally out of control. When she is not acting like she is a two year old screaming and crying she is physically trying to harm me. She has gone from putting nails in front of where I would walk when I have no shoes on to trying to break my arm after I just had rotator cuff surgery.

Whew, I am still so glad I found this site. I have a few issues that have been floating around in my head and nobody to talk them out with. Since I've never dated anyone with kids much less been preparing for marriage it's all very complex and confusing. I'm threading on foreign territory here. Sometimes I'm surprised at my reaction to requests from my fiancee regarding his son. He just now sent em an e-mail asking if he could add me as an emergency contact person for his son and I'm irritated by his request.

My fiance's son is smothering me! He's 6 years old and his mother passed away shortly after his birth. I try to be sensitive to that and understand that he's excited about having me around but his demands for physical affection and closeness is exhausting. He constantly wants to sit by me, hold my hand and is forever trying to be physically close to me. I can't count the number of times I've turned around and tripped over him. I've also gotten compliments from him on my appearance which I find unsettling.

I've got a 7 3/4yr old stepson who just recently moved in with us. Lately he is making me very uncomfortable. Maybe this is behavior i'm getting ready to explain is not so out of the ordinary. But it just seems soooo bizarre that it is freaking me out!!! My SS has always made comments about me being pretty. I never thought much about it. Then lately over the last few weeks he has been asking me several times a day to rub his back or stomache or legs. I decline and say he is too young to be so achy and go watch tv.

I am so glad I found this sight. I do find comfort in the fact that I am not alone.

Some history, my BF and I have been together for 5 years and he has a 13 year old daughter by his ex-GF. His ex-GF intentionally got pregnant to try to force him to marry her, so there is a lot of bitterness on both sides.

I had never dated anyone who had children before we met and none of my girlfriend's had either, so I really didn't know what I was getting myself into.

Just stop asking me all the time as to what is stepson's plan for school breaks.....How the hell would I know, his mother has control of him why ask me! Why do I get this question all the time when school break is coming up and because my daughter is going to visit my inlaws. Don't get me wrong but inlaws are the nicest people but sometimes their questions re: stepson just irritates the shit out of me. I just want to tell them to call his mother yourself and find out.

I am so angry I can hardly type. Ten days ago I had a lovely wonderful wedding, and then a fun 6-day trip with my new husband and my skids and my husband's family (who flew a long distance for the wedding -- the trip was my idea and lots of fun). New husband is back at work and I am taking a few extra days off. While going through some papers (of mine) I found some papers of his that I sorted since he had thrown them in my pile. They were already opened, and included information about an account that has his name as well as his ex-wife's name.

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We are in the process of writing our wills. My dh and I have a bs and my SD. We have been married for just over a year and together for over three years. I love my SD but differently than my own son. She is a only child for her mom who plans to have no more kids. Financially her mom is doing well...thanks to extremely large spousal support payments and child supprt payments. I have a good job and so does my husband.

What is the story w/that??? Anyone been in this situation before? I hate the fact they she talks to the ex. This past weekend, sister in law mentioned that the ex has been very busy w/work....I was planning a bday party for my daughter & stepson and mentioned to my sister in law that I hope that stepson's mother does not change the schedule on us the day of the party. How would she know that ex is very busy w/work unless she talks to her. I just can't stand the fact that inlaws still talk to this monster! What do they feel sorry for her or what?

My BF has his daughter every Tuesday and every other weekend. I have to get up for work earlier than my BF, so when he has his daughter and she has to get up for school, I usually wake her up and make her breakfast before BF gets up. I have been doing this for quite a while now and started because first, I figured I had to get up anyway, so why not let him sleep a little longer and second, I wanted to give his daughter plenty of time to shower (if she needed to), get dressed, eat, etc. and not feel rushed.