So, the kids and I went to pick DH up from his office and head to the Dodger game. ( the sad sad event that game was) I send SS in to get his dad and one of the people that works there (don't ask me WHY she would say this to him, she doesn't know him but she does know that BM is NOT around and I am his "mom") anyway, she says "Hey, I saw your mom today". SS was so confused. "You did? Where?"... HERE, she came in here. SS just kinda shook his head and went upstairs to get DH.

They get in the car and OF COURSE He asks what she was talking about. So DH tells him, I'm not sure why she came here, she went a little KooKoolaROO on us today. SS asked if he talked to her and DH said "no, I was working. And, I don't have anything to say to her, so I didn't come down stairs".

Meanwhile DH hands me his phone, open to her crazy text messages from the day, so I start reading them. She says "I just left SS's school. I spent an hour talking to the school counselor". GREAT. That's ALL SS needs, her embarrassing him at school. The text was sent at 1:40 that is 10 minutes before school lets out. So she was there when SS was there. So, I ask him... did you get called up to the office today? Ummmm, no why?

So... DH tells him, your mom went in to talk to the counselor today. WHAT??? WHY"??????? Not sure kiddo... but don't be surprised if they call you up to the office and ask you talk with the counselor about whats going with you and her. He said "I don't want to talk to the school counselor". So I told him "you don't have to. I don't think it is a horrible idea for you to. Remember I asked you a little while back if you wanted to talk to her. But we won't push you. If you don't want to talk to them, you say so". So, he says "what if they MAKE me". I said, you tell them to call ME immediately. And you don't say a word if you don't want to. BM doesn't realize that he REALLY doesn't want to talk to anyone, and HER forcing it will only make her mad at HER.

I don't disagree with him talking to SOMEONE about what is going on. I think it would be good. I have asked him several times if he is ready to talk to someone. He just says "not yet" or "I'd rather talk to you and dad". I DON'T think his school counselor is the right person. School is his safe place where he doesn't have to deal with ANY of this. He doesn't want to get all upset in the office and then have to go sit with his friends in class. I don't blame him. I wouldn't want to see the school counselor either. I would like for him to see a counselor OUTSIDE of school, when he is ready.