Guess we are going to court
Last summer..bm moved 2 hrs away. Sd has remained in school here and she is here monday through thursday nights. Bm is offered any long weekend and long school breaks in addition to every weekend.
She usually has taken her.
Then bm got knocked up. She now wants to enroll sd in school 2 hrs away and give bf only friday sat nights because we refuse to drive to hrs since she is the one that moved..and as i do all the driving to school because of bfs work schedule..it would fall to me to drive sd 2 hrs.
Now this whole time, i have driven sd the 40min round trip to school each day with my twins from the time they were 3 months old and bf got a better job. Every day.
Bms reasoning for wanting sd to go to her district is she does not want to drive that far with an infant. Umm what bitch!
What she REALLY is wanting is to quit work when she has this baby and have full custody of sd so bf has to oay her child support..but yet we have not recieved support for the time we have had sd.
Bm said today that since bf will not agree to let him put sd in her ditrict which is a. 2/10 vs out district which is a 10/10 or sds current district which is a 6/10. Then she wants to go to court.
Just wonderful. Just after i got in a car accident taking her brat to school.
Perfect! Go to court, request
Perfect! Go to court, request custody and support. Do it now, while BM is employed.
Sometimes support just isn't
Sometimes support just isn't ordered. The judge gave my DH primary residential (mon-fri) and BM has never been ordered to pay anything. No medical, no halfsies for ECs or school finances, zip. It happens.
We thankfully already have
We thankfully already have the papers to file as i printed them and they were supposed to be already filed when this whole shit started but bf didnt want to because bm so willingly left sd here once he said she didnt have to pay cs. It was a matter of what do you want so i can move and bf said sd stays here. .bm said if i do not have to pay cs abd it was agreed on from there..
The childsupport from bm i am not concerned about. We do not have much money but i am pretty great at budgeting. If we can afford to have sd here with no support, why have bm take her if she will need to the support to have her there.
Bf was an asshole last night because he knows he fucked up not getting their agreement in writing.
I am honeslty leaning towards letting bm just have her. Sds behaviour this year has been awful and she has made up a bunch of lies and exaggerated things to play the victim and get pity from bm and her gma. I do not want to deal with it anymore. Im sick of it all. And sick of the mishandling by bf about this crap.
Id rather us have to move somewhere smaller*we just started renting a 4 bd place so everyone had more room* but i cannot see spending the $ for the extra room if sd wont be here.
So really at this point. Do i
So really at this point. Do i just not remind him to do anything?
Ive really been trying to practice the "do not care more then the childs parents" thing. So if he doesnt try to fight anything and sd gets taken by bm.
He never filed the papers before so i really do not think he will this time.
But if i let him handle it which means its does not get handled at all..it could seriously negativily effect myself and this household.
Is there even a 50/50 arrangment that could be had with her taking her for most of the school year?
I know bm is the petty type that will try to sign sd up for things on the weekend or have things she wants to take her to which would further take his time.
Bms latest is that bf is
Bms latest is that bf is being unfair and does he really not want to respect his childs choices because she wants to be with her mom.
Shes 7. Shes a child and does not get to make that choice..which is what he said.
Him and i are of the mindframe that a child that young should not get anythi g like that put on them. She is not capable of making that choice!
Really this is why we have so many problems with sd in our house. Sd calls the shots in bms house for everything. Bm takes no responsibility as an adult.
I can see this is just a no win situtation. We are always going to have this problem because even if sd is treated as a child here , she isnt there so she is always going to think she is more grown then she is.