You are here

I actually feel a little bad for BM part 1

stuckinthebay's picture

Part 1

Again..BMs sister spilled some beans to DH.

When BM and DH were figuring out the parenting plan, they agreed to split the year 50/50. So 6 months with BM, 6 months with DH. DH visitation would start dec 1 to May 31st. Then BM would have SD from June 1 to Nov 30. But when BM moved, this schedule wasn't going to be able to start til the following year. I think she moved sometime in the summer. So when DH would get his first visit, it would be from Jan 1 to May 31st (4 months). Then BM would get SD May 1 to nov 30. That's when they would be able to start the schedule and for DH to pick SD up in Dec. that also meant BM got and extra month, which made 7 months. Now, the year SD will be starting school, there will be no longer a 50/50 split of the year. SD will permenantly reside with BM overseas and will visit us during summer and every other winter break. So because BM got that extra month on the beginning, DH is suppose to get that extra month at the end of his last 50/50 visitation.

This is the part that bothers me. That extra month DH was given, that was a verbal agreement made between him, BM and their attorneys on the phone.

This is SD last 50/50 visit since she'll be starting school. DH emailed BM about the extra month and all of a sudden BM has no memory of it. DH also got a weird email back from BM saying that it isn't on the CO and made up some weird reason why DH isn't going to get 7 months because of scheduling in the beginning.

WELL!! SD spent the weekend with her other family again from her moms side. BMs sister said it was really strange for BM to just start opening up to her about things going on in her house hold. BM said that she was checking emails and some emails didn't look right. Some were deleted or responses were missing. Then BM
Found that her husband was emailing DH about the 7month agreement. BM
Said she doesn't know what to do and she's scared to say something.

That tells me that DH will not get his 7th month because BM can't just tell her husband that in fact she did agree for him to have that extra month.

I told DH to contact his attorney because a conversation like that is documented. DH feels that a price of paper will hold no weight because there are no signatures on it and our state is very pro mom ( that is very true). He feels if she does get a paper it's going to start a lot of drama and money that we can't afford. Yes, it's true we probably won't be able to afford it of we go to court, but it pisses me off that BM has no backbone to tell her corny ass husband that it was agreed between them.

But then again, that's BMs fault for letting her husband be very involved and talking too much shit about DH.

Comments

DaizyDuke's picture

This^^^^ BM is just using her husband as an excuse to take the heat off of her. She's lying.. she told this person because she KNEW it would get back to your DH. Don't fall for BM bullshit.