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SS NEVER. STOPS. BEING. ANNOYING.

MamaBass's picture

SSstb12 (and SSstb17) is here this weekend and SSstb12 is driving me INSANE! He cannot act normal not even 1 hour throughout the day. Oh wait, when he's glued to his iPod, he shuts up. Since we don't allow an excessive amount of iPod usage, he needs to apparently find ways to annoy everyone in the house.
He never walks around the house like a normal person- he is always stomping and running and jumping and skipping.
He never speaks on a normal level- he is always screaming/shrieking or shouting. He's not yelling to be mean, just to make sure everyone hears him and thinks he's so funny.
He can't even laugh like a normal person- he has been laughing obnoxiously long in either a goofy (like from Disney) laugh or a really high-pitched shriek, neither of which is his normal laugh.

I have pretty much disengaged from both skids, but I can hear EVERYTHING he says/does throughout the house. DH is constantly telling him to quiet down, with of course no consequence. Since I've disengaged, I don't even know if I should mention anything to DH. Or if it's worth it! I didn't eat dinner with them tonight because I knew what type of atmosphere it would be- loud, annoying and all about SSstb12. I am at the point where I cannot even stand hearing the sound of his voice or the sound of his feet running throughout the house.

I am recovering from an ectopic pregnancy this week, so unfortunately cannot leave the house. I have been hiding out in my bedroom. I'm not sure if I'm extra annoyed just from feeling like crap, or if he's just acting out this weekend. Either way, I'm seriously going insane.... Do I even mention anything to DH?

LikeMinded's picture

Oh I'm so sorry about your ectopic pregnancy Sad

I'm not doing the full disengaging thing, just a modified version of my own, so I can't really advise. The disengaging essay does say you have a right to speak up when something affects you. Perhaps tell DH that you are not feeling well, so could he make them keep it down, or take them somewhere?

My DH will take SS10 on errands or to a play date if he is driving the family crazy. He has severe ADHD, so I'm not the only one afffected by it.

That said, tween boys who are in the house all day will tend to act like maniacs. Your better long term solution is to get him into some sports, and have DH take him to them. A good soccer game on a saturday morning is good. We also have a trampoline in the back yard. There is no way any of us can handle SS10 when he's been couped up all day, he's like a spinning top.

We keep SS10 BUSY. After school he goes to activities, on weekends he has activities or he visits friends. He's happier, we're all happier. It keeps him safe from his older siblings who want to hit him, lol!