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Sad that some of us go to lengths to avoid steps

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Started cooking dinner at 2:45 p.m., so that I could make sure it was done and ready for me to eat by 4 p.m., and I could have my dinner eaten and my dishes washed by 4:25 p.m. when SheSloth MAY come walking through that front door! Why? So I have to see her as little as possible! I will then briskly leave about 5 p.m. to head to the gym without saying a word to her. All the while, hoping that when DH comes home, he allows her to simply eat a PB&J and doesn't force her to take a helping of the food I cooked, as I know she will take about two bites and throw the rest in the trash as she usually does with my healthy food! This seems to be my daily routine now that SheSloth isn't finding excuses to stay up at school all the time these days. Guess it is best...I mean, gives my food time to settle before I have to be at the gym, and I'm sure to eat before 7 p.m...right? So maybe she is doing me a favor!

Thank goodness tomorrow is game night...unfortunately, it is at home, so I have to make an appearance. However, I am HOPING that sticking it out and watching the half-time show means that I don't have to go to the performance this weekend at 9 a.m...for which I need to wake up at 4 a.m. to get DH out of bed to get up SheSloth (those around here know why...I would rather wake up to my alarm than have DH set an alarm and nearly cause me a heart attack), because she has to be at school at 5 a.m. to "do hair and makeup for everyone" (which I seriously doubt, because I've seen the pictures, and those girls are obviously not letting SheSloth do their makeup...their's looks much better...less hoochie). Why does SheSloth say that? I guess it makes her feel important! I have better things to do with my morning than go watch SheSloth...I have my Saturday morning shopping to do and breakfast to procure! I also have to make two food items for church on Sunday, and still make a friend's wedding at 3 p.m. Sorry, SheSloth (NOT)!

So, let's have fun! Share time! What do you do to avoid the skids that you can't stand to be around?

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I would die if I had to pick up SheSloth from school! That responsibility has been resting completely on DH! Even if she has to sit up there for an extra hour! I can't stand being in the car alone with her. She sits in the front seat, legs crossed like she's someone. She spends the whole time looking at her self in the visor mirror, then to her phone, then back to the visor mirror, then back to the phone. This goes on the entire ride! Makes me want to slam the visor shut, and toss the phone out the window! LOL

Oh, and she is too good to have to listen to our music or have a conversation with us. Yeah, the moment she gets in the car, she stuffs earbuds in her ears and turns up her music. DH has tried making rules of no earbuds in the car unless we are on a long road trip, but that doesn't work. And if she does decide to have a conversation with DH, she spends the whole time talking about herself or talking crap about other people.

Last time I was alone with SheSloth in a car was the incident when she started messing with the cabin temp without asking, and I told her not to do that. That resulted in me getting cussed out via text messages by BM the next day because SheSloth blew it up that I was yelling at her and being a b***h to her. Became a my word against hers situation...oh no! That is when I was DONE! Told DH I wasn't going to deal with SheSloth lying about me, and that if she needed drop off or pick up, he needs to be the one doing it...that I do not want to be alone with the girl!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

As long as it is a home game, I don't mind going so much. I have friends who still have kids on the football team...friends of BS19...so it is all good. I would rather be there than at some "band only" event on my Saturday when I usually do all my stuff.

It was funny. Last night DH was telling me for about the billionth time that SheSloth's performance was at 9 am on Saturday. He then asked me what I was doing on Saturday. I told him, "Well, in the morning I have to do my grocery shopping. Then, I have to come home and prep food for church on Sunday...remember...we have the potluck. And we have the wedding to go to at 3 pm. I'm pretty much going to be busy the whole day!" He reminded me that SheSloth needed to be at school at 5 am, and I said, "Have fun with that!" In other words, I don't care how sleepy you are Saturday morning! I will be waking up ONLY to kick his butt out of bed, and then I'm going back to sleep until 8 am!

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I almost lost track of time today...that would have been bad...LOL. Had to cook some pork chops for dinner, and when I looked at the clock, it was already 3:30 p.m. CRAP! 55 minutes to cook, eat my dinner, wash the dishes, and hide away back in my office before SheSloth comes home! As my discussion title says...the lengths we go through to avoid those steps! I did make it in time...barely. Whew!

It is truly sad that some of us can't simply enjoy our home because of the steps. I seriously cannot stand to be around her, and she walks around here like she owns the joint! That means, if DH isn't home, I'm holed up in my office. The sound of her voice is like nails on a chalk board, and lately, I have started to notice a smell about her. I swear, she must have run out of perfume to cover up the fact she hasn't washed her clothing in a month and wears the same things over and over...and the lack of butt wiping. Then, there is also the issue of her breath! Seriously, I am almost afraid of what it is going to cost when DH finally gets her to the dentist next month. I have this feeling she is going to have to start having 3-month visits for deep cleanings due to gum disease, because her breath smells like butt, even when she claims she brushed!

I hear her walk in the door, sudden tension in my neck and shoulders! I find myself thinking, "Please...just go to your room and stay there! Don't come out and mess up my clean kitchen. Don't start 'singing'. Just stay in your room where I can't hear or see you!!" Every time DH calls her out, I want to tell him to just leave her there! Don't beg her to spend time with you...it only gives her a sense of power! It tells her that she doesn't have to change the way she acts or treats people. Seriously, I wish DH would just give her some of her own medicine. If she wants to be a stuck up brat in her room...let her! When she comes into a room and just stands there waiting to be acknowledged, don't acknowledge her. If she stomps off because you don't turn your attention to her, oh well!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I wish!!! Since I work from home...for me is walking out of my office. Whenever I do and she is in the TV room, she just glares as me as if to dare me to tell her to get off of her arse! Oh, yeah...when DH is not around, it is evil looks, and more attitude than any one person should be able to muster! When DH is around, "Oh, SM scares me!!! She doesn't like me!" Whatever, brat!

legmel's picture

I purposefully leave my office late - by the time I get home my SD14 is in her room and ONLY makes an appearance when her father calls her to come eat dinner. Note she never ever offers to help prepare - but eat yes, this she does! I wish my SD14 would also dislike my food - I have the opposite, she sits and stuffs her face to the point where I actually get sick. I leave home in the morning before she is up, so when I am lucky I could actually go for 2 days without having had to see her and pretend.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I work from home, so I don't get that luxury. I have to be online on my computer until 5:00 p.m....some days until 6:00 p.m. or later. DH often doesn't make it home until 7:00 p.m. SheSloth gets home at 4:25 p.m. On most days, I high tail it to the gym as soon as I can, as much as I hate leaving SheSloth at the house alone, because I can't trust her. But I can't stand being around her, either...and I want as little opportunity as possible for her to go whine to DH that I'm the wicked witch of the west because she is making up some crap!

As I type this...she has just gotten done making herself some food and has plopped her back side on the couch in front of the TV. I don't even want to go into the kitchen and find all the cumbs and ketchup that I know litter my counters right now. I had to go out to answer the door for a delivery, she is all sprawled out on the couch (the girl can't sit, obviously...always has to lay down) with some stupidity on TV that she isn't even looking at because she is too busy texting. She is wearing butt shorts (which she has been told multiple times to not wear outside of her room...noone wants to see that), and the same shirt she was wearing last night when she went to bed. With her, that means she slept in it and just put some pants on to head to school. She does this all the time...it's gross!

legmel's picture

YAY! I left my home at 06h00 this morning just to avoid having to see - speak my SD14 who leaves today for her 3 weeks vacation time with her BM. I really don't even mind the suitcase of filthy laundry which shall return with her (BM's excuse is that she does not have a washing machine). As long as I don't have to spend xmas with her around.

Aniki's picture

I go into our sitting room and watch movies the skids don't like, do jigsaw puzzles, take the dog for long walks, or spend hours in the kitchen cooking things DH and I love but the skids won't eat or meals for the work week. Tomorrow night, I plan to hole up and do all of the Christmas cards.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

BS19 (will be BS20 tomorrow) is home for about 4 weeks now. This will make my life more pleasant for a little bit. He is a joy to be around. He was telling me on the drive home yesterday about some of the stuff they talked about in his classes this past semester. He said one girl wrote a paper about why we shouldn't spank our kids, and he had a nice little debate with her. He was telling her, "My mom spanked me and my older sister. We turned out just fine! We aren't violent people, we work hard...you tell a kid they are going to get a time out, and they know that is no big deal! Why do you think kids are so disrespectful of their parents these days? We would NEVER talk to our mom like that! Now, my half sister, who has a different mom...never got a spanking in her life, and she is a spoiled brat who now treats my mom like crap, now that she has has to live with her since her own mom can't handle her any more!" At 20...he gets it! He said he told the girl, "You better believe when I have kids, I will spank their back sides when they don't do what they are supposed to do or think they don't have to treat me or my wife with respect!" ONLY 20!! And he gets it better than DH does! My son loves kids...he is great with kids...he is even going into teaching. But that doesn't mean that he believes kids should be allowed to do whatever they want!

We were even talking about how when I was in school, your parents had to sign a paper acknowledging that swats could be used as a form of punishment in school, and they had to specifically indicate they did not want swats used. I told him not many parents would be against their kids getting swats in school. And in my day, what was worse...those weren't the only swats you got! You brought home that referral, and it didn't matter if the paper said you got swats at school...you were getting more from your parents! The swats at school were for breaking a particular school rule. The swats at home were for breaking your parents' rule of not getting in trouble at school! BS19 said they should bring that back...that maybe more kid would treat their teachers with respect if they did! He admitted that he wasn't perfect when he was younger in school, and admitted there would have probably been a time he would have not been able to sit at all between the spankings at school and home had they had corporal punishment then.

Aniki's picture

When I was in school, there was NO paper saying your kid could/could not be swatted. You just got swatted! Then again at home. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with disciplining children. People seem to think that spanking/swatting means you're beating the tar out of the kid with a bloody 2x4.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I was reading something the other day...

People say not to spank your kids because it makes them violent people, but how is it we have more violent people since people stopped spanking their kids!

Hmmmm...valid point!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

It is!!! And there are bags and gloves at mine...so if I'm really frustrated, I take it to the bag!

hippiegirl's picture

OP...when my SS live with us, I used to go to the library EVERY NIGHT after work, and stay there until I knew DH was home (about 6:30 p.m.). Just so I wouldn't have to play nice or try to have stupid, mindless chitchat with SS. Hanging out with skids is awkward.