Another Argument About Apps
SheSloth was late for guard this morning. Why? Because she left her laptop open as she was listening to music when she fell asleep (her excuse apparently), and open on the screen was Skype, which DH has told her she is not allowed to use! Skype, Kik...these apps that allow her to talk to random people without any kind of trail are not allowed, but SheSloth continues to use them anyway! She uses them so that DH cannot see on the cell bill who she is talking to, and so that she can get around the fact her phone locks down at 10 p.m. (for cell service only...this is done from the provider web site...but doesn't block her ability to attach to wifi). I've been telling DH for some time that at 10 p.m., the router needs to be turned off or SheSloth's devices blocked, because I was certain she was up to all hours talking to people using her then tablet...going around his phone controls (this was before she had a smart phone). He isn't hearing any of that! He refuses to limit the wifi usage.
There is no telling what SheSloth is doing with these apps...Skype, Kik, SnapChat! She has already been known to post somewhat provocative pictures to Instagram, which DH ordered her to take down until she made her Instagram private so that he could no longer see what she posts (or should I say so that I can't see what she posts to bring it up to him...which was the case most of the time). DH never randomly checks SheSloth's phone, so any activity on that he will never know about, and if she is using Skype for video chats...yeah, she could be laying there Skyping at 1 am in bra and panties or less for all we know! She has a history of talking to older guys on the internet, from as young as 13. At 13, she was telling 17-year-old guys she was 15. For all we know, she is now talking to 20-somethings telling them she is 18!!
Seriously, DH needs to quit having these arguments with his precious princess, and start taking actions! Take the devices away! Put limits on the wifi! There ARE things he can do to avoid this crap, and he knows it! He is in IT...he used to do security for the school district in the city, so he knows how to lock things down to prevent kids from going to places on the internet or using apps that they are supposed to be using! "But I want her to think I trust her!" UGH! THAT WILL NOT WORK! Now, fearing consequences if they get caught, that has much more effect! Like my bios used to tell other kids that would try to get them to do something they shouldn't, "...because WHEN my mom finds out..." Yeah, they knew it was only a matter of time that I would find out, and their butt would be mine! They still didn't always make perfect choices 100% of the time, but knowing that I would not hesitate to punish them made them seriously consider whether or not doing certain things was really worth it! SheSloth has never really been punished...there is no fear...so she just does what she wants anyway. Ooooo...she might have to sit through another lecture from dear dad...big deal!