LIES LIES LIES
All SD13 knows how to do is lie. She lies about anything and everything. BM takes her to counseling since she came out as not straight (but yet also not gay) and now she's on a high dose of Zoloft as well as a mood stabilizer. It hasn't changed anything for the kid and she tells us the issues are only at BMs because her and her mom argue when she gets in trouble because of everyone that lives at BMs house (a stepsister, five other brothers and sisters, BM and stepdad). She hasn't had a phone since March of 2022 because she was lying and getting in trouble at school and causing issues in general. I noticed this past week she was wearing a toboggan or a cap everywhere...inside the house watching TV, eating dinner. She never wears anything on her head. I asked DH if she has cut her hair and is trying to hide it. He said no. This past Friday night we went to dinner and she didn't wear a cap or a toboggan and she has cut her hair and it is awful. She really hacked the front of it up and then lied about it. Her hair was all one length. She is asked constantly if she wants or needs as haircut and she never does. I mean it is awful. I asked her why she cut it and she said she didn't. Finally she admitted she did and didn't know why she did. I asked her if she wanted it fixed and she said yes. I tried to help her fix it so it wasn't so noticable. I fixed it and when she left for BMs for Christmas Day I went in her room to get all the garbage out from our Christmas and there was more hair she cut in her garabge can and it was a lot. What in the heck do I even do? I'm so tired of being lied to. She also lied about dropping all kinds of cereal and hiding it in the couch because our small dog got some and had some stomach issues Saturday. I found the hidden food in a bowl in a sweatshirt she was hiding in her room. She's at BMs for the next few days but I have no idea what to say to her and DH says he has no idea either. Him and BM do not communicate so that's a loss but I cannot keep dealing with this kid lying to me, sneaking food that she's allowed to have and doing stupid crap constantly. I get she's a teenager. I know they make goofy decisions sometimes but this is getting ridiculous.