You want to know what happened with SD13.5 this weekend?
We went to the grocery store before I dropped her off at the performance hall. We walk into store, I grab one of those small carts, and tell her, "Hey, grab a cart for yourself, go ahead and get what you want for snacks and things." Note I had no limit. Just go get what you want.
You would have thought I had threatened to throw her off a cliff! "Whyyyyyy do I have tooooo? It's toooooo hard! But, but whyyyyyyy? The cart is too hard to pushhhhhhh." Then she rammed that sucker right into me. Oh, I grabbed it, shoved it back and said, "Don't you DARE do that again. I am telling you to do this because your dad and I don't know what you want to eat and you won't write things down on the grocery list at home, so go get stuff." She's almost in tears now. Please be aware she HAS SHOPPED GLEEFULLY for herself before! This is new behavior!
She stuck to me like freaking glue, I ignored her totally until she finally realized I was not going to help. She got a total of three things...three apples, a very small amount of dried kiwi and a bag of pretzels. Well, good!
I told DH what happened and he was like, "But she's done it before!?" Yes, exactly.
We are seeing some regression in her independence lately; refusing to contact friends for get togethers, refusing to use her phone (except to call BM), refusing to make decisions on simple things like "library or park" (not indecision, but refusing), etc.