An engaged lesson
Ok, I'm pretty darn well disengaged with slight engagement here and there and I want to be more disengaged this coming year but it's difficult with almost 50/50 custody and long weeks when YSD is here. So I choose carefully if I can.
Today while going through my baking shelf I discovered that YSDalmost16 opened a new jar of something rather than use up the open one (and thus have to dispose of the empty jar....she is notorious for doing this, like leaving a small spoonful of rice in a Tupperware and putting it back in the fridge instead of cleaning it, leaving empty hair care bottle after bottle in the shower rather than cleaning them up and recycling them, etc). She also didn't clean up the sticky bottle she used, so I had to clean the shelf off and discovered she used up something else and left the empty on the shelf. This is MY area. Not having it.
Told DH I'm having a talk with her, she's going to clean up the stuff (I had to clean the shelf already tho) and take care of the empty things. And he is not going to "rescue" her because it's rude and inconsiderate and I will let her know this. She can use the baking stuff but not like that. I'm not her maid and store-keeper.
If the behavior falls into my stuff I will 100% engage.