How to get a Devil Child to wake up and go to school?
One step-mom, one big brother, a Principle, and a Janitor later, and we finally got him inside the school. Kind of.
Hi Everyone! I haven't posted for a while but have been lurking on and off. Since my last posts DH and I got married.
Okay, so for the past few months youngest SS (age eight) has been putting up a fight each morning when his dad wakes him up to go to school. He refuses to get up. Refuses to get ready. He puts up a good fight with his dad, but his dad usually gets him out the door, and often even has to CARRY him from the car to the principle's office where he plunks him down with an apologetic face and then goes to work. His older brother has been late to school a good number of times because of it.
Well he asked me to take him this morning because he had to go into work early.
I wake SS up--he opens his eyes but remains laying down. His brother wakes him up some more, to which he proceeds to get on the floor and curl in a ball under his blanket. (This kid is 8 years old not 4 btw).
His dad made him sleep in the clothes he would wear (for this exact purpose) but he ignores me when I say put your shoes and socks on. So I put his shoes and socks on while he lies like a limp body on purpose. Then it's time to go and he won't get up. 5 minutes of asking him to please get up, his brother is running late etc. me and his brother finally get him by one arm each and pull him out the door. Don't judge us. We made sure we didn't hurt him, and at this point his brother is already running late to school and me to work and we're getting desperate.
Then he proceeds to fight us at the door while I try to lock it. Then I lock it, and he kicks me--on purpose. I get him by the collar of the shirt and get him to the car. He waits until I'm in the drivers seat and JUMPS OUT of the car and runs down the street. I give chase, but I'm too slow. This is a busy street, mind you.
His brother then has to chase him down the street, wrestle him down, and get him back to the car (I wont do it because it's simply not my place to man-handle him, being the SM--wish I could but no, I'm not going to have officials investigating me because he's throwing a holy tantrum of all tantrums!!)And I'm calling his father in a rage to tell him to NEVER EVER ask me to do this again.
We get him in the car. We are driving on the free way and he proceeds to take off his shoes and socks and throw them around the car while screaming at me to shut up.
We get to the school. Of course he refuses to get out. I try to coax him out, bare-foot and all. He's saying he doesn't want to go to school.
I go and find the Principle. When he sees her coming he puts on his shoes. But then he refuses her requests to get out of the car. :jawdrop:
Now in my days I had a healthy fear of the principle. Not this child. She's was trying to coax him out for a good 5 minutes. Nope.
Finally the janitor comes, and at the request of the Principle, and with my permission, carries him like a damsel in distress to the Principle's office.
Does he have ODD?? Is he the devil?? AM I the devil? There has to be a better way :jawdrop:
Let me just clarify that I let their father handle the discipline. It's not my place nor duty. I don't get physical with the children, have never hit them, and will occasionally verbally follow up on rules their dad lays out. But I've never EVER seen a child put up such a fight to not go to school--and without being able to throw him over my shoulder like his dad can--well, it's hopeless. Never. Again.
And here's the kicker--the principle said when he's there he's a good and smart boy. What the???
There has to be a solution to this behavior...right?