My Eight Year old wants to be one Big Happy Family
My girls and I have been living with my SO for about six months now. Things are going well.
But I notice my eight year old wants my SO to be so involved with her. For the most part he doesn't mind, but there are times when I can see he doesn't want so much attention from her.
For example, this morning he was laying on the couch and I came over to give him a kiss. My eight year old came over and laid on him, and started giving him kisses. She was all in his face, and he gently moved her off of him.
Sometimes he doesn't like people in his face, so I thought it was that and started to move away from him as well, but he grabbed my arm and pulled me in to kiss me again. So it was like he was rejecting her, and only wanted to be affectionate with me.
Other times she'll try to do a "family hug" type of thing, where all three of us are hugging each other. It's like she's trying to make my SO her daddy. She sees her dad every Saturday, so he is a part of her life.
The other day she had a performance at school. She wanted my SO and I to come see her perform. At first I thought I wouldn't be able to make it because of work. So D8 asked SO to come but he said he couldn't either, although he's off work this week. At the last minute I was able to make arrangements so I could make the performance, and when SO heard that I was going then he said he could go too.
I understand he's not her dad, and I have told him that I don't expect him to be a dad to her, but at the same time he has said he would come to school functions for my girls. So it kind of hurt that he didn't want to go unless I was going.
Don't get me wrong, for the most part, they get along great. It's just a few little things like this that concern me. I would like to help my D8 pull back just a little bit because while most stepkids can't seem to stand the step parent, I seem to have the opposite problem, LOL.