Something Borrowed was Lost - Appropriate Resolution
My two daughters and I have been living with my SO for three years now and things have been going fine. Recently something occurred that I'd like to get advice from the ladies on here.
My SO goes backpacking a lot. He loves backpacking and it's something he does at least a few times a year with his buddies or even by himself. Recently, my D17, her boyfriend, and two other friends of theirs decided they wanted to go camping. My SO let D17 borrow his tent and a sleeping pad.
So, the day arrives and D17's friends pull up in a SUV. D17 and her boyfriend put their stuff in the back of the SUV and off they go.
The next day they return, but D17 does not have the bag that the sleeping pad was in or SO's tent. Apparently, between the four of these teenagers, they just threw all their stuff in the back of the SUV and then when it came time to give people their stuff back, they couldn't find things.
SO was NOT happy. Like I said before, backpacking is something he really enjoys doing. He's a computer programmer, which forces him to be inside and he can't stand it. Being out in nature is like medicine for his soul and backpacking gives him that opportunity.
I told D17 she better go over to her friend's house and look through his SUV for SO's things. She did. She did find the bag for the sleeping pad, but still could not find the tent.
Now, technically, it's not D17 fault because she shared a tent with her boyfriend and let the two other boys use SO's tent. And it sounds like the boys packed up all the gear into the car. But between the four of them HOW they could have lost something as big as a tent is beyond me. :?
Now I'm trying to figure out what an appropriate resolution to this would be. SO paid $125 for the tent, but it was on sale. To find a similar tent would cost him $175.
D17 has a job so she has money. At first SO was very upset that D17's friends had lost his tent, but since then he's calmed down and said it's not a problem. He said he's not going backpacking any time soon and he'll just order another tent. I'm wondering if I should make D17 pay for at least part of the expense of the new tent? Technically D17 didn't lose the tent, her friend did, but she was still responsible for the tent and was the one that had borrowed it from SO.
What do you think?