How do you Handle Summer Visitation when the kids have Jobs?
I'm posting this as a biomom but I think this topic is appropriate to this section of Step Talk since I think people here would most likely encounter this kind of problem.
I'm divorced with two daughters, ages 15 and 8. According to the CO, my exhusband and I each get two weeks of vacation with our children every year.
Since both of our parents live out of state, I let my dad use my vacation time to see the girls, and my exH lets his mom use his time to spend with the girls. My girls fly out and stay with my dad for two weeks. They usually fly to see their dad's mother as well, but sometimes she comes to our town to visit.
Now, my oldest will be turning 16 in August and my SO is going to give her a car for her birthday. I'm thinking she needs to get a part time job for at least two reasons.
I think at the very least she should pay for her own gas and contribute at least something towards the cost of her car insurance. She would obviously need a part time job to pay for those things.
Also, we're also looking at college, and I'm thinking of summer jobs/internships that could help her with college applications. She wants to go into health care, so we're thinking of part time jobs or volunteering at hospitals during the summer she could put on her college applications.
Now, I have a couple of concerns. I'm concerned that if she starts working, she will not be unable to take the time off next summer in order to visit her grandparents.
Also, the school she attends gives a lot of homework. She usually has at least an hour of homework every day. I'm concerned having a part time job during the school year would affect her grades.
I want her to learn hard work and responsibility, but I don't want to take away her visitation with her dad's family, or her grades to suffer. I'm trying to think of a feasible compromise that would not affect her ability to see her dad's extended family.
The only thing I've thought of is that she could get a part job for just the summer, and visit her grandparents during spring break or Christmas. But I would hate not spending Christmas with my girls.
Or should she just not get a job? The idea of her not having to pay at least something for her car rubs me the wrong way. I would rather she not even get the car if she is unable to at least pay for her own gas.
Any ideas? The folks on here usually think of things that don't even occur to me.