My oldest SDaughter is getting married. She is having a very small wedding. Only the BM and her husband, Grandparents and one or two uncles will be there. Please before I get any negativity - I KNOW this day is about her and her fiance as it should be.
I need advice for the following:
1) I want to be supportive for my husband but be in the background and let him enjoy his daughter's special day without being accused of being a selfish and jealous by anyone.
2) I am mentally preparing myself to be excluded from preparation, photos, conversations, etc on that day. It is what it is...and I recognize that.
3) I am also worried I am going to be asked to "watch the kids" while they all celebrate. If that happens - any suggestions? I would feel insulted if that does happen however, I would not be surprised if the BM tries that.
I need advice on how to stay back - let them enjoy the day without feeling "left-out." and truthfully jealous of DH, the BM and her family sharing the day laughing etc. while I sit off quietly in a "corner" and "entertaining" MIL. This particular SD has never treated me rudely but I am never thanked etc for gifts at Christmas, birthdays, etc. and I expect the same for that day also.
I want to act like a lady, I don't want to give them anything to "gossip" about, etc. So as silly as it may seem - I would just like some advice from others who have attended SKids weddings.
P.S. - My relationship with this particular SD is - I only respond when I am contacted. I don't reach out but when we have been together she is always pleasant towards me.