Advice - thoughts and experience of others
Just recently I found out 26 year old SD has a function at a counseling center she has been going to for the past 10 months that is asking for "Friends and Family" to attend. I am assuming at this point that BM, SS and OSD will be there. Now it was presented to me as if it was just invite for my DH - not me. I did not ask questions and just replied with Oh - Ok.. Why? I don't know maybe I just didnt want to seem jealous or unsupportive and start something after a long day of work. I wanted to take some time to think... 24 hours later - I thought I would ask for some advice. No matter how harsh it may be.
So I have decided I am not going to ask DH any questions about the event and I thought about making plans for myself that day - I hate playing games and in a way I recognize I already am by not asking questions. I am not going to lie to all of you - part of me feels as if they are going to "play happy family" for the day. BM has a reputation of being flirtatious so yes, there is a some jealousy there....now that I have admitted to all of this. If I made plans for myself that day and did not mention it to him and went and did my thing - am I being immature and insensitive? I guess the message I want to send and I do recognize it is being passive aggressive is that I am not going to sit at home on the weekend while they play happy family. I recognize hearing "family and friends" and not being out right asked if I had any plans that day bothered me. I have never been excluded before by this SD - so maybe that is why I am bothered.
I appreciate all advice whether it is hard on me or not.