The Locked Door
I already included this episode as part of another post, but I would like to expand on it further because DH *insists* that if people knew all the facts, they would see no problem with it. So I am curious what you all think. And I know you will give your honest opinions and hold back nothing.
To recap, we have SD's cat in DH's office until other arrangements can be made. Originally, the door to that room did not have a lock, but the door to that room's walk-in closet did have a lock on it because DH keeps his guns in there and he didn't want my son having access to them. My son is not into guns and is not the snoopy type, but fine, whatever.
Then SD (and cat) came to live with us, in that room, and SD insisted that a lock be put on the room door, so DH switched the lock from the closet to the main door of that room.
After SD moved out, the cat remained in that room because SD could not afford to pay the pet deposit at her apt, and so we are trying to figure out other arrangements for the cat. SD still had keys to both the house and that room, which I felt was unnecessary and was uncomfortable with it, but that is a whole 'nuther matter. For at least a couple weeks after moving out, SD would come and go to take care of the cat, and the door to that room remained unlocked. Then DH went out of town for a few days, and all of a sudden SD felt a need to lock the door to that room. That's when it finally dawned on me fully that only SD and DH had keys to that room.
Long story short, I eventually got into the room and switched the lock back to the closet, which made DH really mad and we had a big blowup about it - but so far it has been left that way. I still don't have a key but that is not a big deal at this point because the closet door is never locked, or even shut, because the cat's food and water are kept in there. Although, as far as I know, the guns are still in there too.
I know it's DH's office, but I do need to go in there from time to time to use his computer or scanner, and basically I just feel there is something very wrong about being locked out of a room in my own house and someone who doesn't even live here has a key and I don't. If they think it needs to be locked, then I should at least have a key. But DH can't see that that is a problem and feels that if people knew the whole story - that it's his daughter, and she needs to take care of her cat, and there are guns in the closet - they would agree with him that it is not a problem for only him and SD to have keys to the room.
So...what think ye??