"I don't know if we can ever have a good relationship
Because my Mom said my relationship with you will only be as good as the relationship I have with Focused and she practically ignored me on my last visit there" is the latest OSD26 said to my DH. She's referring to the visit when she told me "she heard us". DH told SD he didn't witness me being unkind or unwelcoming to her at all. He also told her that their relationship is between the two of them and her BM needs to stop telling her things about him/us because she has no idea what goes on in our home and that she's caused enough damage between them.
I was sitting next to DH in the bed when this conversation was going on and of course more was said, she was trying to throw my name in several times before he finally told her to leave me out of it. After he got off the phone he asked if I can try to converse more with her on her next visit because she cells uncomfortable (her words) coming here. I told him to practice what he preached to her. I also told him, if she does come I will address anything she wants to know regarding me. He said he understood BUT does he? Clearly not and I will not be dragged back into their dysfunction. He loved when I was the 'buffer' and so did she but I was also her competition and target (she will never admit that).
I may be wrong, but this is yet another manipulation tactic from both BM and SD. BM has trained SD very well but I wish they just go away. BM, for some reason still wants to punish my DH after 25.5 yrars and SD made it clear she didn't want me in the picture and when I gave her what she wanted, that's STILL not enough. I must admit though, this would have bothered me a year ago but now it's become comical. This girl will not be happy until SHE knows she has caused a rift between DH and I. She is in for a rude awakening once again. There's no question just another ridiculous attempt I guess.