How to prepare for transition into adult SK - protect myself
My DH and Ex have a very acrimonious relationship. No real communication until absolutely necessary. $ matters for her, pick up times for him. We live quite far. They have shared legal but she has the kids majority of time.
It has been brutal dealing with his EX and the games over the years.
I'm here mainly for advice/suggestions on how to prepare/protect myself (and DH) from being used as an ATM as SS gets closer to HS graduation.
My DH gave ex everything in divorce and only fought for more time with kids. This of course left him (as he is a bit older) financially wiped out.
I have my own house and we are doing okay now. I have read in other places some horror stories about kids and financial aid and getting parents into debt with school loans. I don't want him or I at all involved with anything financial (not saying we wouldn't give him some spending cash but I mean legally obligated) for school. We won't be forced to turn over tax info or anything will we? We have nothing to hide just don't want to be affiliated at all.
I don't picture SS going into a traditional college, but more than likely a technical school.
I probably sound a bit all over the place, but any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.