I thought I would post to get opinions thoughts on my newest aggravation.
I have planned to go to Hawaii this summer with my family, husband and two girls (both under 9 yo). I talked to my husband and he said well SD21 should be invited, and I said fine but better if she go with a friend, and have someone to do activities with. We discussed with SD21, she said she would think about it and has no friends to ask to accompany her. Ok mind you a trip to Hawaii for 4 is expensive, and adding another grown adult is even more. She wants to come she has to pay.
so... SD21 does want to come and my husband told her she can come but has to find her own place to stay and find her own activities during the day! "We will do some dinners together"
Of course I don't want SD21 going on this trip, she is going to stay at her own place and then what be calling my husband everyday to do something? This is so awkward to me.
She has no plan of where she will stay. My husband threw her a bone and booked her flight there (so he can feel like he doing something to include her) now she is on her to pay for flight home and hotel.
I honestly want to wait 3 weeks see if she has a place booked to stay and if not, then just cancel my whole damn trip!
my fear is she will just go with us on the flight and say oh can I stay in your hotel room?!
am I crazy? Or do I just go and say you are on your own? My husband is acting like she is going on her own vacation.