DH's family is speechless - that's a first
Haven't posted much in a while, but this time DH's family has me scratching my head a little bit. Without going into too much background, YSD (now 20) whom DH and I had raised for years decided that when she turned 18 that she was an adult and that she could do anything that she wanted which included lying, stealing and threatening her 8 year old half sister. After she was told that she either needed seek counseling and respect everyone in the household or she needed to look for her own place to live. YSD chose to leave (but told everyone that I had thrown her out) and move in with a friend's family and then within a few months, decided to join the Army. Since YSD left our home, she made sure to lie about DH and I about pretty much anything and everything that she could think of. One of her biggest lies was that the whole problem between her and DH was simply because DH didn't agree with her joining the military (even though DH & YSD stopped talking for a full 2 months prior to her ever considering joining the army and DH has always been a supporter of our troops.)
Since so many members of DH's family believed YSD's lies, many of DH's family members have made it a point to go on and on whenever they run into us about how mature YSD has become since joining the army just over a year ago and how she's supposedly received 4 promotions within less than a year, etc., etc. Basically, they never miss an opportunity to try to brag about YSD to DH because they want to throw it in DH's face and convince him that YSD is having a much better life in the army than anything we could ever provide her with (even though her joining was never the problem).
Well, within the last month, all of a sudden DH's family has gone silent. DH and I weren't thinking much about it and quite frankly just enjoyed the peace and quiet. Then, I get a call from my aunt asking me why I didn't tell her that YSD had gotten married last month. :jawdrop: I reminded my aunt that DH and I got off of Facebook completely after all of the drama from YSD so we wouldn't know and that this was the first I was hearing about it.
Turns out, YSD married a young man who she's known only for a matter of months because he is getting deployed. While DH and I recognize that YSD is definitely a carbon copy of BM and that she is more than likely just looking at this young man as nothing more than a cash grab and is most likely trying to get pregnant so that she can avoid getting deployed herself, we both agree that she is an adult and that this is not our problem and really none of our business. The part that I'm wondering is why all of a sudden the constant "bragging" from DH's family has stopped? Maybe I'm stupid to get my hopes up, but I'm wondering if a light bulb is finally going off in their dim-witted brains and if they're finally starting to pick up on some of YSD's impulsive, immature and manipulating behaviors. Quite frankly, I'm not sure what this sudden silence from a loud, boisterous, manipulative and dysfunctional family means (if anything) as this is completely uncharted territory. Have any of you out there experienced anything like this?