DH and SD flipped out! Does this mean it's over?
Hi! I recently started posting about my adult SD. I have anticipated this drama as she is on summer break. So Saturday she sent me a message this is what it said:
Hello. Would you care to elaberate on your reasoning for why you do not want me coming to my fathers house? Or why it will cause "issues" if I'm over there?
So being the mature adult woman that I am and lots of couseling under my belt this was my reply:
Sure! I don't have issuesat all. I have bounderies, which are healthy and protect everyone involved. There is absoulty no way using your "father's house" as a hotel for your convience is healthy for anyone expecially for the health and peace for the people who live here. You and your father have what ever relationship you two want. I am to be left out of it. Expecially when healthy boundaries are yet to exist. We've been in therpy for some time learing about these boundaries. Your father maybe scared to tell you, however I am not. Have a great summer! I'm excersizing my right to be totally disengaged.
After my reply to her all Hell broke loose. She called my DH family and sent my message. She didn't know that they were out to dinner with us and they are very aware of the situation with her. After she didn't get the reaction she was hoping for the verbal abuse started. She accused me of using her father for money, trying to get her out of his life. Called me all kinds of terrible names. At the same time she was unleasing her hatred on her father. This resulted in him blowing up! He got some boxes and threw all her things in them and dumped them on the driveway. He told her she was not ever to talk to DW like that again and never to knock on our door! Why am I so sad then?! I don't want her in my home that I work my butt off to help pay for. I've rented an apartment should he let her use this house as a hotel like previously. I'm so sad they can not ever have a healthy relationship. I know why everyone is so scared of her now. DH took along time in telling her about the boundries because he knew she would flip out and disown him. So now she is gone.. Is it time to relax and enjoy our new marriage without constant interferance or is this drama not over yet?