Why can't we get child support?
I just have a few questions. I am SM to three SK's. The oldest SK lived with us for a while, but now lives with her mom. The BF and BM have 50/50 custody. The oldest Sk is 17, she goes to school, works, and has a boyfriend, she does not spend any time with us. She sometimes attends church with us, but very rarely.
The other two kids live with us. The BM will barely ever see them. She makes LOTS of plans with them, but always breaks them at the last second. they are not allowed to spend the night at her house, because "they are not on the lease"... I know WTH, right? Anyway, so usually she will pick them up after school and then drop them off at around 7, maybe 8.
The oldest SK is always asking us for money for contacts and medication. Usually she will pay us some of the money back... but that is coming from SD, and NOT BM. We even bought the oldest SK a car, which she traded in because BM convinced her to, and now she is making payments on a car that is almost exactly like the one we paid cash for... she got about half of what we paid for it for the tradein.
So my question is... are we able to get child support from BM? We have all the medical bills htat we have paid for the oldest SK. We also hold the insurance for all the kids. My boyfriend says that if we take her back to court they will make him pay child support because he never sees the oldest kid. He works two and a half hours away from where we live so it is a tough situation right now.
My boyfriend says that it is difficult for a man to get child support from a woman. So I don't understand??? Why is it that we pay for everything... and we get no child support? When she had the kids when I first started dating him, he was paying almost twelve hundred. seven hundred for child support and the rest alimony. Even with that she got evicted from her house and had to move in with her boyfriend. She broke up with that one and moved in with her new one.
So why is it that child support systems will not allow men to get child support from the BM?