I feel like we are being nickle and dimed all the time by BM??
Ok, so my husband pays a good amount of child support every month. his oldest daughter has been 18 for almost a year with no reduction because the court is taking forever to do it. Also now BM is working and she wasn't at the time of final papers were written up. And now his ex is asking that if the support is reduced because of those circumstances that we have to pay additional for the kids' extracurricular activities.. So even though SD18 is emancipated and BM is working we shouldn't pay less?
I pay for my kids' activities out of my child support I get from my ex, and I assumed most people did. The attorney told me that is not the case in most cases that the parties split the cost of activities according to income on top of support. This is news to us! My husband pays her spousal support, child support, provides the kids health insurance, plus 50% of medical out of pocket expenses, 100% of travel expenses for out of state visitation,(they lived most of their marriage in the state where we live and only moved to another state because she lost the house here on purpose by not paying the mortgage while he was at work out at sea, instead paying for shopping and SD pageants! and they separated within 2 years of moving down there! which is when he moved back to home state. Now he is the bad guy for moving back home where all their family lives) We pay average over the year of $500 per month in visitation expenses.
She spends way more on extracurricular activities than we feel is appropriate so there is no way we want to be stuck with that! She is a pageant mom who spends money on out of state travel for pageants before her bills, as well as competition cheer and dance classes and competitions, with private lessons and hair and makeup for competitions. We have my kids in normal dance lessons, which are less a hundred a month, and the other is in piano, also under a hundred per month, which I pay for out of my child support I get from my ex. We feel spending hundreds on activities for kids that young is crazy! She is teaching them to be spoiled and demanding. What do you all think? Do you all pay separate for outrageous activities? or is it included in support?
In Addition now she is sending us receipts for reimbursements for little things like a 20$ humidifier for her house because she said it was for SD11. Well, they live in the dessert and have them in different rooms of the house already. We purchased a nicer one for the girls room when they are up here too and didn't ask her to pay half. This isn't a medical expense to us. He already gives her half the cost of copays and deductibles and coinsurance, casts and lab fees etc... as well as provides the insurance. I don't think its fair that she sends us receipts from Walmart that could be for anyone in the household and expect us to pay for it! What's next tooth paste? shampoo? What is the support for?