What a thing to teach girls
SD15 has this boy that she has liked for the past year. He has played the game of telling her that he just wants to be friends, while acting boyfriendish towards her, until another girl comes along. BM has allowed him to spend the night at their house multiple times (by multiple I mean pretty much nightly over the summer), with him even spending the night when SD is not there. (I have a theory on that, which involved BM being the cunt-faced whore that she is…but it’s just a theory…lol). Anyway, This boy is just a jerk…typical 17 year old boy….liking to keep SD hanging on in the background.
So, last weekend SD was with us, out of town, and finds out that this boy is at her house (her mom and SD aren’t there, either, just the other kids) with his girlfriend. She throws a fit and gets all irate, of course, because she’s a teenage girl. Apparently she texted the boys friend and went off. I’m gathering BM texted the boy and his friend about it too, because she was texting SD the next morning about how neither one of them were responding to her. (This woman is WAY too involved in teenage drama….constantly texting her daughters and SD’s boyfriends, etc.)
I broke my silence (and temporarily my disengagement) and told SD that 1) she can’t get mad at the other girl because I guarantee that while he’s telling SD how much he doesn’t care about his GF, etc, he’s telling GF the same crap about SD and 2) he would treat her the same way if he was her BF, because what he does to one, he will do to the other, so she’s better off without him and needs to kick him to the curb permanently. Actions speak louder than words, you know.
Her mother, on the other hand, apparently feels it is appropriate to teach the teenage girl that boys treat you like shit because they care about you. That’s seriously what she tells SD….that this boy cares so much about her and he’s so confused!!! WTF!!!! Why not teach your daughter not to take shit from anyone instead of teaching her to roll over because him treating her like shit means that he cares?!?!?!? DH and I just told her last night…”people who care about you don’t treat you like that, it’s that simple”.
I just want to punch BM.
Makes me want to punch BM
Makes me want to punch BM too! I am glad you broke you silence and had that conversation with SD. Hopefully, SD will follow your advice and not BM's!
I have my own theory too on why a teenage boy is allowed at BM's house when SD isn't there and SHAME on her....go find a man your own age BM!!
LOL....my thoughts exactly
LOL....my thoughts exactly (regarding the boy)
I really hope SD listened and absorbed what I was trying to say. I told her I'd BTDT with boys, so I know...lol. DH thanked me and said that he really thought that SD was listening. Poor girl, I hope so.
WTH! Talk about empowering
WTH! Talk about empowering your daughter. Unfortunantly this sounds like BM over here. Just put hundreds of dollars of weave and bought new booty shorts for SD13. I guess she thinks it's time for SD to be interested in boys. SD on the other hand is an introvert. This will get interesting.
She's trying to teach her
She's trying to teach her daughter to be a victim, just like her! How dare you try to stop her from making sure SD doesn't have a normal life?!?
The movie "he's just NOT that
The movie "he's just NOT that into you"
Love it,... It opens with a little girl being told by her mom that the little boy pushed her on the playground becuase he likes her,... And then the adult girl saying, ok boy treats you like crap equals likes me, so meaner he is more he likes me,....argh
I think I need to watch this.movie again too
WTH!!! there's so many levels
WTH!!! there's so many levels of inappropriate things going on there. Ewww...just ewww!
ewww... shame on BM Stepping
:sick: ewww... shame on BM
Stepping in on this one was the right thing to do... what SD does with your advice is on her
What is with these lunatics?
This BM is a toxic POS and
This BM is a toxic POS and keeping your SD as far away from her as possible is in SD's best interest.
Dating is a learning experience for everyone. However, young men learn how to treat young women from their parents just as young women learn what is acceptable treatment from a young man from their parents.
This young man needs his ass kicked, BM needs to be in prison for statutory rape and your SD needs to have confidence that she is far better than this POS 17yo whos parents failed to train him to be a young man of character.
IMHO of course.
My brother , a year and a
My brother , a year and a half older treated me like crap when I was a kid.He was just horrible to me.If I told my mother she would say"he teases you because he loves you" I grew up believing this.Through my whole adult life I beieved this bull and so had aweful relationships with abusive men. I was treated so badly by my piece of sh@t brother that I was terrified to have male children.My first was a girl.I was overjoyed.My second was a boy.I suffered post-pardom and did not bond with my son for months.I still believe this was not entirely caused.by hormones. I was so disappointed in giving birth to a boy. I have 3 sons who mean the world to me but if my mother had stopped the abuse from a sick abusive idiot my life would have been easier and I would not have been in abusive realtionships most of my adult live.Please talk to this young girl and try to make her understand that she is being abused not only by boys but by.her own mother.
I'll try to answer all of the
I'll try to answer all of the questions in this post
1) To the best of my knowledge she is no on birth control. She had been at one point due to ovarian cysts...but like everything else, her mother lets her do what she wants when she's at her house, which includes taking her medication when she feels like it.
2) Yes, her mother is one of those who wants to relive her teen years and and be all of the kid's "friend" and "the cool mom".
3) Chickadee, I am sorry to hear your story and hope you have worked through all of that. I pray that SD doesn't have that same heartache.
4) DH has sat down and talked with BM regarding his concerns and making it clear that he does not agree with it...but we all know how that goes. He has also sat down with SD and talked to her about it, so at least she's bein given advice from our side, and hopefully seeing from her dad how a man should treat the people he cares about.