Am I overthinking the situation
DH and I have been doing a little bit better mostly because I decided to be ignoring some things . Two weeks ago Sd and Sd called DH to say she wanted chickens as pets (DH already has 5pet chickens that my BSs take care of , it’s the first time my BSs takes care of pets and I thought it would be a good thing so they can learn some responsibility), and without even consulting me DH , BM and SD agreed, now there are 9 and my BSs are expected to take care (it’s gets hard in water going to the barn before school, feeding them etc...), I bit my tongue but I’m still feeling bad about it. Three days ago we had to go to kids school and BS (12) and SD (11) both did well and received some kind of certificate. Sd called DH at night complaining saying BS had two awards (yet he didn’t, they had the same one), then DH start saying anyway BS is older so it’s normal he’s doing good, and telling SD anyway you are in two advanced classes and he’s only in one.
Tonight SD comes and BM calls her and says “see I told you he didn’t get two awards, I called your grandmother and asked about it , you both bad ass “ , am I just overreacting to that !? Then later she says “your dad said you smell like laundry detergent “ then DH yells “that was between me and you big mouth “ joking with BM . When I complained why she had to call MIL and why he joked like that he said I’m overreacting and that he’s doing that in front of me because he has nothing to hide and that’s it’s ok to joke to teach SD how good parenting looks like. As for the kids school things doesn’t it look like they trying to teach SD she’s better, or I’m I overthinking it ?